Data from the National Statistics Office indicate a new trend in the field of marriage.
2021 was the first year on record in which more children were born out of wedlock than out of wedlock, a side effect of another, more long-term trend of declining marriage rates and an increase in the number of couples living together without marrying in recent decades.
We tried to find out what causes these trends to continue to spread, and according to Dr. Max Blumberg, a marriage therapist and certified member of the British Psychological Society, it is simply because marriage no longer offers what it once offered: "If in the past society used to demand that you get married, because the advantages of This outweighed the disadvantages" and he details "marriage can promote a situation where you have less money, less career and less freedom, and unlike in the past, when women had no social mobility without getting married, which turned even a bad marriage into an advantage - now it's different.
The price of marriage is so high that for many, including women, it is more profitable to remain single."
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Why not get married already?
the reasons:
Because the traditional motives for marriage were no longer traditionally relevant
, women needed the economic stability and social mobility of marriage.
Even until the 1960s or later.
But modern social structures make women's lives flexible enough not to need the family unit.
They work, manage, raise children alone and run a household whether they are married or not.
Men also become more flexible in their roles, but at a slower pace than women.
People today are less happy
Nowadays people work harder to stay afloat financially, so we have less time to invest in the family, and more stress related to the pressure to earn a certain amount and belong to a certain class.
Young women's self-esteem has been particularly damaged by social media, and online relationships are less fulfilling and bring less happiness.
In addition, it is more difficult for unhappy and stressed people to manage relationships, and it is more difficult to be with them, and all of these together produce a situation of decreased mental health, and in direct relation to a decrease in marriage.
Now it is easier to live together without marriage
, there is a growing social consensus that cohabitation with a contract and agreements that have legal validity are preferable.
In fact, the opposite is true - cohabitation still breaks up more easily than marriage.
And yet it is more popular, perhaps simply because it is easier, and because the objections of the parents and the environment to living together without marriage are no longer a strong enough motive.
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The high divorce rate scares us
. It is estimated that 42% of marriages in the UK end in divorce (most of them initiated by women, by the way).
When all a person sees in the media is marriages ending badly, this probably influences their decision to do it themselves.
Studies prove that marriage is better for men than for women
. The benefits of marriage for men are quite clear.
Studies have shown that married men have better lungs and happiness.
Their mental health is better and they recover faster from illnesses.
But it is not like that for married women.
In his 2020 book Happy Ever After: A Radical New Approach to Living Well, behavioral scientist Paul Dolan finds that single women without children are happier than married ones and also live longer, and other studies show that single women have more social connections and fulfilling leisure lives More - and that is absolutely a key to happiness.
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It is better for women to be single parents
if there is a strong biological urge to be a mother but the right partner is delayed, women often choose to have a child alone.
Today there is already much less social price to pay for using sperm donors or for being a single mother.
And if she can afford it - which happens more and more as the years go by - single parenthood becomes a more preferred option.
No more "bastards"
Older people may still raise an eyebrow when they hear about a child born out of wedlock, but most people don't, and this probably has to do with the declining power of religion in the Western world, because much of the traditional social stigma came from a religious outlook.
A recent census showed that fewer and fewer people are religious in Europe, and in the West in general.
Wedding is expensive
According to Hitched's National Wedding Survey, the average cost of a wedding in 2021 was £17,300 - up 90% (!) on the previous year.
True, Corona had an effect on raising prices, but there has been an upward trend in wedding costs for a long time.
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