Issues related to money are one of the main reasons for divorce, fights and tensions in marital relationships.
This is exactly why it is very important to have conversations about this topic, at every stage of the relationship.
At different stages in the relationship there are different questions, and the discussion is about other issues.
For example, in the integration phase, the couple expresses a desire to become a couple, spend more time together and create a mutual commitment.
Examples of important questions in this aspect at this stage:
How do you feel about the consolidation of financial issues?
Will you consolidate your bank accounts?
What is the importance you attach to consulting with your spouse before making a large purchase?
If you decide to get married - how do you imagine the wedding?
Big and fancy, or small and intimate?
If you decide to create a family budget - will you agree to persevere in the process, or will the ongoing engagement with the issue create a feeling of resentment between you?
How will you react if you find out that the couple spends significant amounts behind your back?
Do you both want to work?
If you have children - will one of you want to raise them and not work?
Are you ready to compromise on professional advancement for the couple?
If one of you receives an excellent job offer that will require a move to another city or country, and the other has a good and beloved job in the current place - will it still be possible to be considered for acceptance?
Do you have savings?
If so - what are the plans for them in the relationship?
Are you planning to retire at some point?
At what age?
What is the status of your pension savings?
There are many topics in general, and those related to money in particular, that can be discussed with the couple as the relationship progresses.
When it comes to money, one thing is clear: the sooner we are open and honest about this issue in a relationship - the better.
Conversations about money reveal not only who we are as individuals, but also what we can be as a couple.
So don't avoid it.
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