Question: My 21-year-old son has very violent reactions, especially when something doesn't go his way. He scares me because the lack of control and aggressiveness are very great. After he finds out he regrets it. What I can do?
Fabián Talleres, from Caseros.
Aggression is a normal, adaptive and defensive biological trait that
is expressed to satisfy vital and survival needs
, both in animals and in humans.
Without it, no species can evolve or perpetuate itself as such.
In violence, on the other hand, the aggression loses its adaptive value and
its objective is to produce the greatest possible damage, even leading to the death of the victim.
Anger, for its part, is a basic emotion like fear, joy, sadness, disgust or surprise and does not necessarily lead to aggression.
That is,
an individual can feel a lot of anger and not act aggressively
or violently.
Boxer Mike Tyson bites off Evander Holyfield's ear during a championship fight.
/ Clarín Archive
There is an experience intimately linked to anger that is frustration: whenever we get frustrated – for whatever reason – anger is generated since an obstacle stands between desires and the achievement of objectives.
For this reason, frustration is key in the genesis of this emotion.
However,
it is a problem when the rage, anger or anger in an individual is expressed as "explosions"
that denote some impossibility of control.
Many people sometimes
get exaggeratedly angry over a trifle
and react completely out of proportion.
Anger attacks can be triggered for insignificant reasons, even in a normally calm subject, which is why they are incomprehensible to those who know him.
The assessment of daily events, when the mind is flooded with anger,
alters the objectivity of a certain event
and prevents finding the appropriate mechanisms to have a constructive reaction.
How they affect health
These reactions are dangerous because they also
affect the health of the person who explodes
, generating or aggravating a wide range of heart diseases, high blood pressure, diabetes, depression, gastrointestinal disorders, headaches, among others.
The coach of Estudiantes Nelson Vivas in a fit of rage during a match against Boca in 2017. / Clarín Archive
Anger implies not accepting a reality that frustrates a previously desired expectation.
It hurts and hurts like a blow and that's why you react like that.
The main victim is the person prone to anger
since it affects the relationship with himself and is the first victim of a reaction that overcomes him.
Someone said that "anger is like a burning stone that burns first is the one who throws it."
In the face of outbursts of anger,
research has identified certain dysfunctions in some brain regions
that are involved in these reactions, demonstrating less function in those responsible for regulating and controlling anger.
Anger attacks can be triggered for insignificant reasons, even in a normally calm subject, which is why they are incomprehensible to those who know him.
Norberto Abdala, psychiatrist
Before and immediately after the explosion of rage,
changes in various physical parameters are found: heart rate
, blood pressure, testosterone, adrenaline and cortisol levels, and asymmetric activation of the brain (especially in the frontal lobes). and temporary), with its consequent risks.
Therefore,
when consulting with the psychiatrist, he will surely request studies to investigate your brain
and hormonal functioning.
In addition to recommending, without a doubt, psychotherapy to learn to tolerate frustrations.
MS
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