Threesomes: the recommendations of those who made the most frequent fantasy come true

Is there an instruction manual when it comes to giving free rein to sexual fantasies?

The options when it comes to

are as varied as there are people in the world.

However, there are a series of guidelines that can help improve each experience.

In the case of sexual threesomes, both the specialists and those who have already carried out this practice on some -or several- occasions agreed on a fundamental point: previously chatting about

.

"Threesomes are one of the most frequent fantasies, but it is very important to reach an agreement, perhaps that is why it is so difficult to make it come true,"

the doctor and sexologist

(on Instagram, @tusexologaclinica) told

The difficulties, the expert pointed out, have to do with everything that is at stake there: for example, jealousy, ego and self-esteem.

Keeping this within the plane of the imagination, however, is a concrete possibility and also contributes (and a lot) to enjoyment.

Although this idea is present only at the mental level, it can generate both

and fun, the sexologist said.

With the trios, issues such as jealousy, ego and self-esteem are put into play.

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What to keep in mind before having a threesome

Aranda listed a series of key points when planning a threesome:

• Consent

  - All members involved must agree and want it.

• Avoid jealousy

  : we must seriously consider and understand that if we do it with our partner, he or she will also have sex with another person, which is why it is not indicated for jealous men and women.

Consent, step number one.

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• Doubts?

  : when in doubt, it is best not to do it.

• Get ahead

  : it is necessary to set rules, bet on communication.

  And ask some questions: who will be the third party? When and where will it be done? What happens afterward if the experience doesn't work out? What practices can be included and what not?

• Real expectations

  : Life is not a movie.

  Although fantastic things can happen, it is not always the case.

• Prevention

  : always take the necessary care to avoid the spread of sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies.

  A condom or latex field is changed in each orifice of each person.

• Consent is reversible

  : we all have the right to repent and stop sexual practice at any time it is occurring.

Expectations must be realistic.

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Threesomes, in the first person: the tips of the participants

All the testimonies coincided in emphasizing that the first step is consensus and, once this is clarified, agreements must be established.

Luis mentioned three essential rules that are the ones he usually uses: “No one is seen alone, you have to

and be able to understand that it's just sex.

You finish and bye”.

The prevention of STIs and unwanted pregnancies, fundamental.

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Florencia affirmed that, according to her experience, it is necessary to “

” the members of the experience, so that the practice is pleasant for all three.

Martín emphasized that one must "

in the sexual act and not leave anyone out, since just 10 seconds of feeling like this can be horrible."

In addition, he assured that it is essential not to fall into the error of "looking for the trio to save the couple, but to do it only if they are very well and want to experience more."

Julieta mentioned a key aspect: "For me, one of the essential factors is to let go and get rid of everything that porn taught us."

It is necessary to allow agreements to be established prior to sexual practice.

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Finally, for Fernando, one of the essential items is "that the couple have everything clear, especially regarding jealousy

"

In addition, he added, you have to be realistic with your

, since "there are fantastic trios, but others not so much."

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