The person wants his friend to always be indebted to him for hurting him once and not to forgive him (Photo: ShutterStock)
This coming Shabbat we will read in the synagogue the commandment portion where the Torah opens with the commandment "And you shall command the children of Israel and they shall take unto you olive oil of a kind for light."
The Rebbe Rabbi Yosiah Pinto explained in his lesson that the Torah teaches us an important message for life; a person should return favors and thanks to his fellow man, and why? So that he does not always remain indebted to him.
Thus Rabbi Pinto said in his lesson:
It is possible to do it. .
G-d tells Moshe our rabbi that the children of Israel will bring oil to light the menorah just as I illuminate the world for the people of Israel, so the people of Israel illuminate and return to G-d with the light of the menorah.
One should make it difficult and say that G-d needs a lamp to be lit for Him to shine light for Him, G-d does not need man's light, after all everything is His, so what does it mean for them to light the menorah for G-d as G-d lights the world for them?
And here we can say a great foundation, continues Rabbi Pinto Labar, if we look at a person's daily life, a person meets a person or has a friend and that friend hurt him, after how long this friend comes to the person and asks for his forgiveness, what does that person say to his friend You don't need to ask for forgiveness, what you did to me is not a problem, it's nothing, don't even ask for forgiveness, that's what the person says to his friend.
The question arises: a person comes to ask for forgiveness, why doesn't his friend want to accept the forgiveness, why doesn't even he want to hear him ask for forgiveness, why do people behave like this?
But it is possible to interpret and say, the person does not want to forgive and why, because he wants his friend to always be indebted to him for hurting him once and not to forgive him, he leaves in his heart the injury that hurt him for a long time, so that this problem remains open that his friend will always have to ask him Sorry.
And so you see many times, Rabbi Pinto said in his class, a person who does a favor to his friend, after doing a favor to a friend, the friend comes and says thank you for the favor you did me, many people answer you don't even need to say thank you, it's nothing.
And why do they answer like that, but the answer is that the person never wants to be thanked in return for a favor he has done, because he wants it to always remain open to thanks and thanks, that there will never be an end to that thanks.
Such is the nature of man, not to forgive a person for the bad and to say that no forgiveness is needed, and for the good no thanks are needed, that these things always remain open and always remain indebted to the person.
And this is what G-d teaches the children of Israel on the contrary, "And you shall command the children of Israel" as I light the world for them, that they light a small lamp for me. As it were, and they light a lamp for him after that. A person who does not work on his morals, his morals will take him to a great ruin like no other.
Aryeh Zamir, in collaboration with Shuba Israel