We have already informed you that women are not as monogamous as they used to be, and that the situation only gets worse as the age gets younger.
We didn't know how much.
Take for example Nikki, who has been married for 15 years.
and cheats on her husband for 12 of them.
This is a mother of two in her late 30s, tracking her potential men using a neat spreadsheet, having a special untraceable number for the media that she uses to communicate with her suitors, and arranging meetings with them via WhatsApp.
She usually sleeps with several men at the same time - she once had sex with four different men in the same day.
It is true that one of the acts lasted only 20 minutes, but as she says, she did not come here to "hug".
When it was over, she says, she showered, had a work meeting, and went on a dinner date with another man.
Neither of them was her husband, if it wasn't clear by now.
She told her story as an interviewee in a new podcast called "She Wants More", which talks to married women and their infidelities at a very high level of detail.
"It was amazing," she tells the interviewer "It was so cool because I got to really be in the driver's seat and get exactly what I wanted - I was very horny that day. It's such a power-trip to be able to be in control of the sexuality of people you want, And make them fulfill all your needs," says Nikki. "It's a crazy feeling."
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The presenter pointed out how easy it is for women to find partners to cheat on, and concludes that "it even happens that your partner is lying in bed next to you, and you are looking for someone to have an affair with."
The eight-part series closely examines female infidelity.
Piazza, herself a married mother of three, spent the last five years interviewing married couples for another podcast on the subject, which talks about commitment, but about two years ago she learned that her friend was cheating on her partner.
Then she found out about another one, and another one.
Piazza was shocked, and let's tell the truth, she was also intrigued: "I found records of so many women I know who are having affairs... and many of them were ones I didn't expect," Piazza, 42, told The Post.
After a year of research, in which she interviewed more than 20 women of different ages and backgrounds from all over the country about their extramarital relationships, this new podcast was born.
There are women of all ages, shades, and types, from a young gymnastics coach who fell in love with her husband's best friend, to a 60-something who has been happily cheating on her husband with multiple partners for over 30 years.
At first, "I went into it with my own judgment," Piazza admitted.
"I was married at the time, and I was like, 'Oh my God, this is the worst thing you could do!'"
After talking with them, however, she learned that women had all kinds of complex reasons for seeking sex outside of marriage—and that this action didn't actually ruin their lives.
Nikki, for example, says that she has become more confident and more relaxed since she signed up to Ashlachy Madison (a site where married people look for alternative partners) and had her first romance, more than a decade ago.
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Before, she would beg her husband to hit her or pull her hair, anything to add some excitement in the bedroom - and then feel embarrassed or ashamed, or even unwanted, when he would ignore her requests.
Now, Nikki says, "I'm less resentful, less mean. I don't have a lot of tension built up in my chest or stress or anxiety or any kind of negative thing that grows inside you from constant frustration, and you start looking at the person you loved with anger - like - why can't you understand? Why can't you give me these things? Why am I stuck in this marriage when I deserve to be happy, to feel good about myself?"
She confesses.
"This air to breathe just makes me less of a bitch - I don't have a better word."
While every woman has different reasons for cheating, many of the podcast interviewees share similar traits.
They often met their spouses and got married very young - late teens and early 20s,
And for some, sex with their partner decreased after having children, and they felt insecure and unattractive as a result.
Many felt that they could no longer communicate with their husbands - especially about their sexual desires.
Only one woman interviewed, former gymnastics coach Katie, deviated from the rules of monogamy because she fell in love with someone else and left the city she lived in after their acquaintances found out - most of the women Piazza interviewed unanimously said they loved their husbands and had no intention of leaving them.
They just want some variety.
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Monique, an accomplished professional in her mid-50s with two grown children, went on Craigslist after her husband told her he wasn't interested in a threesome, where she met a younger man with whom she dated on and off for 12 years.
The affair was fun, sexy and enriching - but she never thought of it as anything romantic.
"If you asked him what my children's names are, he wouldn't know," Monique says of her first novel.
Since then, things have changed, and Monique has experimented with BDSM, had a threesome and even donned a corset for one couple's erotic Victorian fantasy.
For Monique, sleeping with others was "an enriching experience of life", which does not contradict being in a relationship with the man she loves: "It's like saying red is my favorite color, then wearing red and only red for the rest of your days," says Monique, who has been married for 30 years.
"If I wake up and feel like wearing yellow - does that mean red is no longer my favorite color? Not necessarily."
Only one woman Piazza interviewed was caught, when her husband finally looked at her phone, and that relationship eventually ended in divorce, but Monique actually thinks her husband knows about her forays out—and that he's probably just fine with it.
"Imagine the following scenario," she says in episode 3. "If you knew your wife had a lover, but at the same time it made her sexier in your eyes and improved your sex like a miracle - wouldn't you want that?"
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