The reflection of two intertwined bodies during a
sexual encounter
is a common scene, both in the world of fantasies and in real life.
Generally, mirrors occupy a privileged place when it comes to eroticism.
However, it is worth asking: are they always allies of pleasure?
In their favor, mirrors have the power to break with routine and monotony, provide creativity, stimulate the visual part and even explore their own and others' anatomy detail by detail.
On the other side are, for example, the modesty that it can generate in some people, as well as the discomfort in those who are dissatisfied with their own image.
The benefits of the mirror during the sexual act
"Mirrors are allies when it comes to a sexual encounter in certain contexts," said sexologist María Gabriela Simone. Photo illustration Shutterstock.
“Mirrors are allies when it comes to a sexual encounter in certain contexts, when everything is going smoothly and everything is fine, when there is trust in the couple, when there are two people who feel good about themselves and are full to connect with the other. another,"
the psychologist and sexologist
María Gabriela Simone
explained to
Clarín
.
The specialist mentioned that the contribution of these objects is to open the game to creativity, increase communication and increase confidence and eroticism.
In addition, she pointed out "seeing the other's reaction to stimuli serves as a guide, as a map to know where to go."
“There is a game where people become spectators and actors at the same time, which can be stimulating and exciting.
And seeing the other person take pleasure in what they're going through can increase security and intimacy,” she said.
Seeing the other's reaction to each stimulus serves as a guide to know where to go.
Photo illustration Shutterstock.
On the other hand, said the psychologist (on Instagram, @licenciadagabysimone), the fact of exploring ourselves is a fundamental contribution to sexuality, especially in the case of women, since their genitals are internal.
“Female enjoyment was taboo and silenced for a long time.
We sexologists recommend that they get used to looking at their
vulva
and exploring to be able to connect ”, she stated.
The other side of mirrors
When people are not comfortable with their own image, mirrors can subtract more than they add.
"The way in which one is going to connect and feel in a meeting has to do with feeling good with oneself and with one's own body, since eroticism starts from there," explained the sexologist.
When people are not comfortable with their own image, mirrors can subtract more than they add.
Photo illustration Shutterstock.
This goes far beyond an aesthetic issue and has nothing to do with superficiality.
Simone mentioned that "it is very difficult to connect with pleasure if we do not accept our body."
By way of example, he stated that there are people who have
sex in the dark
so as not to be seen by the other person, and even not to see themselves.
There are also those who do not believe that their partners can desire them and others who directly "come to avoid the sexual encounter, since their discontent leads to inhibition."
“Feeling dissatisfied with our own body can work against us on a sexual level.
When we feel good with ourselves, we achieve a fuller sexual life and, when sexual relations are satisfactory, there is an effect of increasing self-
esteem
”, highlighted the expert.
To use mirrors in a meeting an enthusiastic consensus is very important.
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When prejudices and image play against, enjoyment costs more, since there is a disconnection with the sensory.
In these cases, the sexologist recommended, one option is to cancel the visual stimulus, for example, with a mask.
For all of the above, Simone stressed that to use mirrors in a meeting "consensus is very important, an enthusiastic consensus, so that the situation is enjoyable for everyone."
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