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Advice from my driving school teacher applicable to parenthood

2023-04-24T10:48:58.323Z


Phrases like "observe", "don't plan or get overwhelmed and react more" or "brake with time" are as valid for driving as for good parenting


Just like Juan Diego Botto in the endearing and hilarious series

I don't like to drive

, I decided to get my license at 40-something, after a more or less comfortable life as a passenger.

The reason is that with two children the logistics of travel and vacations is more practical with your own or rented car.

And although my wife drives extremely well, there are always doomsayers asking us what would happen if she is injured or unwell and there is no coverage and no one to notify the tow truck and the fate of the universe depends on me being Vin Diesel.

Since my ability to speak and write does not automatically translate to coordination or pedal play, I have spent many classes with my teacher, the patient and kind Jaume from the Alba 2 driving school in Barcelona (he does not give me commission, but I I still recommend it.) I've thought about your advice so much that, with a little imagination, I see them applicable to good parenting.

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  • Respect the rules or Why do it wrong if you can do it right?

    As little as you follow the medical recommendations and the calendar of visits and vaccinations, the deadlines for open doors and registration of schools, summer camps and extracurricular activities, reading the instructions and the typical informative PDFs on any subject well, you will save yourself scares and time of negotiations and rectifications.

  • Observe and plan.

    No matter how well you drive or raise yourself, and no matter how responsible and sensible your children are, you are not alone in the world.

    Therefore, it is essential to be aware of everything and everyone around you and anticipate your possible reactions.

    Because just like driving, even if it's the fault of others, you don't want to be scared or hit.

    For example, in any park you can quickly see the bully child who hits or steals toys.

    Therefore, when you see that he is going towards your son with bad intentions, do not wait for yours to end up crying.

    Approach them and display your cloak of protection to avoid tragedies.

  • In difficult situations you have to arrive slow and leave quickly.

    Or, what comes to the same thing, when faced with a parenting problem, solve it soon or seek help quickly, and do not stand still in a complicated situation, distressed by doubt and anguish, which do not fix anything.

    For example, it's better to go to the pediatrician on time or to talk to the teachers and they think you're exaggerating a bit than not dealing with the consequences of something that has been getting worse and worse over time.

  • Do not plan or overwhelm yourself so much and react more.

    Perhaps this security in paternity already comes with the second child, but in the end you see that the children also survive without the bib, the lucky stuffed animal, three changes of clothes just in case, and the thermometer and the Dalsy in the stroller even to go out to throw out the rubbish.

    That you have it prepared, better;

    but if not, I'm sure you'll be able to improvise fairly well.

  • Indicate and signal your movements.

    In driving and parenting, you are not alone and others do not read your mind.

    You will save discussions, misunderstandings and fights if you talk to your partner and family about what you want to do, to reach a good consensus.

  • Stop with time.

    Instead of slamming on the brakes right at the crosswalk or yelling at the kid when he gets on your nerves, take control of the situation and reduce his energy or tantrum slowly, gently and patiently before the explosion. That will put you both in a bad mood.

  • If it can be easy, don't complicate it.

    This is as true for roundabouts and battery parking lots as it is for modern parenting.

    We don't need bottle sterilizers, nebulizers in the room, coasters from the €50 trolley,

    dudus

    to cover the light when they sleep... If they give it to you and you carry it with you, perfect.

    If you have left it at home, nothing happens.

    And no matter how good a life we ​​want to give our children, don't worry so much about spending a lot of money or making spectacular plans, but about spending time with them really paying attention to them, looking at them instead of your mobile.

  • Style!

    Or what is the same, enjoy the process, drive and raise with elegance, do not get tired or get too angry, make everything flow without tension and savor every day the joy of moving through life on wheels and accompanied by some beings little ones who give you as much love as you give them.

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    Source: elparis

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