Stinginess is a trait characterized by a fear of spending money, sometimes to the point of giving up comfort and basic needs. In many cases, a miser does not define himself as such, but as a calculating or frugal person. Therefore, the definition of stinginess is sometimes based on social standards and the suffering and frustration caused by it to other people. Sometimes people around a miserly person feel that they are obsessed with money, and that they are deprived of basic activities or purchases without an objective economic reason.
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Many women testify that their partner is miserly, but even this concept is completely relative. It turns out that there are men who have taken the concept of economic stinginess one step further and turned it into a sick art. Evidence of the depth of these men's problem exists in divorce proceedings, in which the women complain to the court about the grim reality in which they lived. We spoke with a number of victims of stingy men and compiled quotes from lawsuits filed and these are their stories.
Cut out the sneakers and turn them into flip-flops
"My ex-husband grew up in a good family," says Dina, a 43-year-old divorcee from Modiin, "a mother from Poland, a Bulgarian father. They are both pure souls, always showered us with all the best. They helped us buy a house, supported us during difficult times, and there were those, especially when we were students. Really good people. I don't understand, I just can't understand how they got such a miserly son, and I also agonize over how I didn't see it before the wedding, or rather, how I closed my eyes.
"About a month after the wedding, he started visiting me that I was making sponge with too much water and needed to save. Later, for example, when the children grew up and they wanted flip-flops, this miser refused to buy them, but cut the back and front of the sneakers and turned them into a kind of flip-flops. Of course, I refused them to leave the house like that. But forget it, it's small - we were married for 20 years - he never agreed to go out to a restaurant, not even to a café. He always said it was a waste of money."
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He is a wealthy businessman whose fortune is estimated at over a quarter of a billion shekels. She is a housewife who raised their five children. Later, after 15 years of marriage, the relationship ran aground and the couple decided to divorce. The woman argued before the court that alimony should be set at NIS 20,2 a month, in light of her husband's financial strength. On the other hand, he adamantly refused, saying that at most, he was willing to pay 500,500 shekels a month (<> shekels per child).
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The lawyer says that he "did death to his wife" and exerted pressure against her and dragged her into legal proceedings, which cost him more than a quarter of a million shekels, but as far as he was concerned, it was a mental death with the Philistines. "For him to pay me 20,20 shekels a month, it's like I'll spend 13 shekels, it's his monthly budget on cognac only," the woman told the court. At the end of the proceedings, after quite a few years, the court ruled that he would pay alimony in the amount of NIS <>,<>.
Forbade his wife to operate the hot water heater
"He's a miserly man. Decided that electricity should be saved in a crazy and delusional way. He confiscated the remote controls for the air conditioners that we won't turn on during the day, he turns off the electricity in the house at many hours of the day as well as the electric boiler, all in order to save on electricity costs," Dafna recounted in her appeal to the family court as part of her testimony in the divorce proceedings she opened, "I told him to stop this madness and that I am not willing to live with a miserly husband. But he's ripe. It's more important for him to save electricity."
She said she talked to her husband many times about it, but nothing helped. "He often shut off my electric heater, so I went to a friend's house with my son to take a hot shower," she added.
Send your son abroad with canned goods instead of money to buy food
"Miserly at unreasonable levels. This is a matter bordering on insanity; He prevents me from using the air conditioner because of the fear of high electricity bills, so our little daughter and I sweat at home," a woman said, during a legal proceeding against her husband. When our son went on a pre-army trip to Germany, he bought him cans to take there, and also gave him a package of chocolate to spread so he could save money buying food. Our daughter got married, and begged him to help her finance the wedding. He agreed, but told her he was lending her the money, with interest."
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"Want more examples?" the woman asked the judge, "He always volunteered me to be accompanied by the children's class trips, and when I told him we would go on a family trip, he said there was no need because I had already traveled enough."
My mother lives in our living room to save on municipal taxes
"My husband's mother was just as rich as he was, both of them were worth 30 million shekels in my estimation, but that didn't stop her from selling the house and moving into our living room. For 15 consecutive years, while healthy, for no reason other than her morbid stinginess, she lived in our living room," reads the motion to open a divorce file. "The reason he agreed to this was the fact that he was an only child, and he wanted to avoid a situation in which his mother wastes money on paying municipal taxes and maintaining a house, so that all the money will come to him as an inheritance."
After all, you are sanctified to me for 500 shekels
"All his girlfriends got married before me and got a very worthwhile engagement ring. We all grew up in north Tel Aviv, and came from well-established homes, so there was no question at all - each and every one of us had a serious wedding, and of course received a stunning engagement ring," says Ronit, a 38-year-old divorcee from Tel Aviv's Nursery neighborhood. A friend of mine, for example, got an engagement ring with 2.5 carat diamonds. After the wedding, we inquired and it cost over 30,50 shekels. Another company received an engagement ring that cost a similar amount. When it was my turn to get married, I got a faint ring, and he told me it had cost him over 9,500 shekels. I never bothered to check how much it cost, I always trusted him completely. After <> years, during the divorce process, I did a valuation of the property and the ring, and I got a market: no diamonds or anything - glass. I turned to the most serious expert in the field, Gal Geert from Diamond Factory, who estimated its value at <> shekels.
All our property - from families of the deceased
"I got married knowing that my partner was very frugal, but I didn't appreciate its depth," reads a court transcript in a divorce case opened by Dalia, 45, from Sderot," I come from a home where I was raised to give with a big hand. I don't calculate every penny and want and know how to 'live well.' My partner was raised to save every penny from a young age. I have a sea of examples of his stinginess. Just to explain to the ear, all his clothes, basically all our possessions, everything we bought from families of the deceased, who sold the contents. My whole house, belongings of the dead, nothing was bought in the store, not even the kitchen utensils.
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