Maitlin Woolrich, 23, said she was "relieved" to learn that her boyfriend had cheated on her as she had been for months — but with a man.
"My initial reaction to finding out that he had cheated was relief – because before that I did feel like I was going crazy when I suspected he was hiding something" but I had no proof. Walritz says in a TikTok video that she suspected her then-boyfriend for months, but as she tried to ignore her gut instinct, doubts crept into her dreams.
"When I finally decided to trust him and let go of my suspicions, I asked him one last time if he had ever cheated on me, and he said 'no' — but a few hours later, he sent me a long message with a confession," said Wallrich, who did not recognize her ex by name. "The guilt started eating him, and he had to tell," she continued. "I felt like a weight was coming off my shoulders, I even thanked him for that."
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He admitted to cheating on her while drunk at the beginning of their relationship and hiding it from her for about six months, saying it was "a huge mistake, and he wanted to fix it." Woolrich shared that while her ex "identified from the beginning as bisexual," which didn't bother me because I'm also bi. However, I wish he had felt comfortable enough to share this with me sooner."
The couple reconciled, and tried to put the infidelity behind them, but eventually, after a few weeks, they gave up and separated. "I decided to leave before I started venting my anger at him," Walrich said in the video, "Even though he was the one who cheated on him, no one deserves to be in a relationship where their partner is holding something against him that he did in the past over his head."
When she shared the news with friends and family, "everyone responded with something along the lines of, 'I knew that,'" and the traumatic experience left her with doubts and trust difficulties.
"It's a lot harder for me now than it used to be on dates, because the gap between the words he would say to me, which were so real and clean, versus his actions, was big," she admitted, continuing, "And even though this man was the best relationship I've experienced overall, apart from the infidelity, so when I hear other people say the same things he used to say, it really bugs me."
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