Pleasure and enjoyment are words increasingly present in everyday language. Their role within the sexual sphere, it is known, is fundamental. But do we know why?
Sexual intercourse is not synonymous with pleasurable sexual intercourse. In the latter, sexologist and human sexuality educator Romina Barraza told Clarín, hormones are released that benefit the immune system.
In addition, understanding them as a physical activity, these meetings benefit the cardiovascular system. On the other hand, another of its essential positive features is that they improve affective bonds.
In this context, the specialist (in Instagram, @drabarrazasexualidades) listed five obstacles that prevent sexual enjoyment.
1- Low self-esteem
Low self-esteem generates inhibitions of all kinds. Photo illustration Shutterstock.
People with low self-esteem, not feeling good about themselves or their body, generally believe that the other sees or feels the same as them (and act accordingly), she said.
In this context, there are several problems that can arise: there are those who do not dare or feel ashamed to undress, inhibitions of all kinds are generated and, consequently, the necessary freedom to be able to enjoy or express themselves is not experienced.
All this, Barraza clarified, "has to do with an absolutely personal matter and the esteem of one's own person."
2- Little stimulus
Inadequate or insufficient stimuli are directly related to self-knowledge and eroticism. Photo illustration Shutterstock.
Inadequate or insufficient stimuli are directly related to self-knowledge and eroticism. "Each person has their own map of pleasure, which even sometimes one does not know," said the sexologist.
This means that if the person himself does not know what he likes or generates pleasure, hardly the stimulation of another is appropriate or sufficient. As a result, he added, "you are not going to get excited enough to enjoy the meeting."
3- Fears
"Fear can be conscious or unconscious," Barraza said. Photo illustration Shutterstock.
"Fear can be conscious or unconscious," Barraza said. In general, he added, these issues are closely linked to the lack of sex education.
As a result of the different types of fears, people cannot relax in the necessary way, do not reach the recommended connection or can enjoy that sexual encounter.
4- Performance anxiety
Performance anxiety occurs mainly in people with penises. Photo illustration Shutterstock.
"Performance anxiety occurs mainly in people with penises," she said. According to her, it happens when instead of going to a meeting in order to enjoy and feel pleasure, something similar to "taking an exam in which you have to show off" is experienced.
That causes hormones that have to do with anxiety and fear to increase and activates a part of the nervous system that disables all the sexual part, he explained. As a result, he added, it is very common for two mechanisms to be generated: lack of erection and premature ejaculation.
5- Lack of communication
It is necessary to say what we want, what we feel and what we like. Photo illustration Shutterstock.
This is another obstacle linked to the lack of sex education. It is necessary to say what we want, what we feel and what we like. At the same time, ask the other and let this work as a kind of guide.
"Effective, assertive and periodic communication is super important for enjoyment. It is necessary that the other listen and interpret what I meant and, in addition, be careful and kind with what one says. "
Finally, he suggested talking about it on average every six months, since "we don't always like the same thing."
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