"They write to me that I am an evil and heartless woman": What enraged Achva Sitbon? | Israel Hayom

Achva Sitbon, star of the first season of "Wedding at First Sight," shared a series of harsh and insulting comments with her 68,8 Instagram followers on Saturday after posting a photo of herself in which she revealed that she tattooed her son Daniel's name on her arm because she did not also tattoo the name of <>-year-old Leia, his half-sister and her husband Jonathan's daughter from his late first wife.

"I'll start from the end," she began her angry post, accompanied by a photo of her kissing Laia. "That's it! I've always been tolerant and forgiving of the issue, but lately there are women here (especially women!) who allow themselves a little too much," Sitbon asked to explain why this time she chose not to remain silent to the onslaught. "I wish I could bring you a small camera into your home that will document the difficulties, the dilemmas, the struggles, the differences and the thin line of raising a girl who is not a child. A girl I received (as a gift) at the age of five for 24/7 in my life, a girl who knows the very obvious fact very well – she has a mother and she has a name, and no one comes to replace her nor can she replace her."

Achva Sitbon // Photo: Lens Productions

"I can't imagine watching a child grow up without his mother from the sidelines, it's heartbreaking every time," she added. "You really can't imagine the void in her life, but you have to understand because I've already understood – no one can fill her void, no matter how hard she tries. No one will replace her mother. I'm her brother's mother, her father's wife, but not her mother. I am a caregiver parent. I'm there for her needs, to guide her, to teach, to guide and to love, but that's far from her mother."

Sitbon added: "Believe me I do my best in this difficult role (by the way, being a biological parent is much easier) out of full belief that this is a great mission and mitzvah, and I always think in my heart what if it was my child. So to all the confused, criticizing, commenting and niggles here – think twice before you dare criticize me or any other integrating mother."

"It's time to normalize the issue"

Apparently, the confrontation with her followers did its job, and Sitbon chose to post another series of stories about the storm today, in which she said: "It's time for this issue to be put on the agenda, but what's really sad is that women silence women. I think because of those women who react in such an ugly way, there is a group of inclusive mothers who are afraid to speak up, to share their difficulties, to tell the truth as it is. They are afraid of this criticism."

"The glue that united us." Seaton's story // Screenshot from Instagram

Sitbon also said that as someone who has been in the entertainment industry for about five years, this whole issue is "passed" by her, but there are still silenced women: "I ask myself why in a world where it is important to have dialogue even on difficult issues, there are still women who write to me that I am a bad and heartless woman. The subject of non-biological motherhood does not get a place, which is why there is so much ignorance and lack of knowledge. Whoever hasn't done that can't step into my shoes or criticize me. It's a piece of a mission, maybe the hardest task I ever do."

"Yes, a tattoo, not a tattoo," Sitbon said of the match that sparked the storm. "Do you realize it's super important to have a maternal figure in her life that accompanies her? Her mother has a place of honor. It takes a lot of sensitivity to do this entanglement," she shared again.

Sitbon then appealed to "all inclusive mothers," calling on you to make their voices heard. "Normalize the situation so they know what we're feeling. That's the only way it will go. It should even reach legislation on the subject. You don't have to be afraid of women who have a light hand on the keyboard."

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