Pamela Anderson
revealed that her best night of sex was with an 80-year-old man, when she was in her twenties, in Buenos Aires.
Her statement, published in her autobiography,
Pamela
, was reproduced by the Daily Star and from there it spread across the media around the world.
One of the most desired women in history positioning an older adult as a desiring and desired being seems to have revolutionized the public.
“
It was one of the most sensual experiences I have ever had.
It changed me and I have never forgotten it
,” said the former Baywatch.
The actress recounted that the man guided her as they danced together for much of the night, that his gentle touch left her "
breathless
" and that being treated by a "real man" was "something she had never felt" before. .
Sexuality, a path that is followed throughout life
Is there an expiration date for enjoyment?
Specialists from the Argentine Society of Human Sexuality (SASH) explained that “sexuality is born with the person, it is experienced throughout all stages and it continues to be present as long as we remain alive.”
However, they recognized,
prejudices
represent “the most difficult stones to move for a happy life in general.”
“There is no end age for sexuality, neither as a practice nor as a desire, unless our thoughts are marked by prejudice or misinformation.
Our body feels and desires even in disabling situations,” psychologists and sexologists
Lucía Baez Romano
and
María Ester Antelo
said from that association .
Pamela Anderon said the 80-year-old man left her "breathless."
Photo: Michael Buckner/Getty Images/AFP
In
Let's talk about sex.
Dialogue with experts
(Editorial Dao), they detailed that in older adulthood there are tongue kisses, oral sex, anal sex and coital sex, among other practices that are assumed to be desired and consensual.
With the elimination of prejudices and taking these data into account, perhaps Pamela Anderson's experience will no longer be so surprising.
The sexologists took up the popular phrase of Masters and Johnson, who stated that “
aging can slow down the human sexual response, but not end it
.”
Along these lines, they explained that sexual difficulties are part of the natural aging process and that, if all eroticism is reduced to sexual performance or a healthy image, sexuality at this stage will be undermined.
“That same body that gave us so many moments of sexual pleasure still exists.
It is not fair to deny it or punish it because of its wear and tear over time.
The
erotic validity
is there and, if we know how to listen, our body will give us the key to live sexuality from eroticism and the search for our capacity for pleasure regardless of the vital moment in which we find ourselves.
This is important, since erotic life disappears when the link with life is lost,” said Antelo and Baez Romano.
And they reiterated: “
Our adult sexual life does not have (should not have) an expiration date
, especially taking into account that sexuality is not the same as genitality.
Genitality is a partial aspect of sexuality defined by the anatomical-physiological nature of the genital organs and their capacity for action.
Older adults, sexuality and physical changes
The sexologists detailed the
physical changes
that occur during older adulthood, both in women and men.
Pamela Anderson revealed secrets of her life in her biography.
In women, when menstruation stops, the amount of estrogen and progesterone decreases and they enter the
menopausal period
.
Baez Romano and Antelo listed among some of the modifications, changes in silhouette, loss of pubic hair.
However, they highlighted “the most annoying element, due to vaginal atrophy devoid of estrogen, is pain during intercourse due to lack of lubrication (as well as urinary infections).
"In relation to the sexual response, this means that
lubrication
does exist, but it usually takes longer. On the other hand, in the orgasmic phase, time also slows down to reach climax." It is important to clarify that this can be try to continue with a full sexual life.
Regarding men,
testosterone
does not decrease drastically as happens in the female body with estrogen, but rather it gradually decreases.
They also lose pubic hair and, in addition, their testicles reduce in size, while at the same time they lose support elasticity.
Pamela Anderson, as the remembered CJ Parker, her character in Baywatch.
(Archive)
Other effects, the specialists mentioned, are the decrease in sperm production, as well as its ejaculatory volume.
On the other hand, at this stage of their life, benign prostatic hypertrophy (BPH) usually appears, which consists of the enlargement of the prostate, which leads them to urinate several times at night, also causing sleep disorders.
Regarding the
male sexual response
, within the excitement phase there are also changes: they will need more time than before to achieve a good erection and the seminal fluid is reduced.
In the orgasmic period, ejaculations delay their completion process more and subsequently their refractory period may be later in time.
Sexologists recommended direct genital stimulation of both people for this moment in life, in order to improve the sexual encounter.
"It is not that there is coital obligation, but it is important to enjoy the erotic encounter, dedicating as much time as possible to it with pleasure and voluptuousness, in the same way that it is important to encounter oneself and give free rein to our desires to be at alone enjoying self-stimulation.”
Pamela Anderson in a scene from Netflix's "Pamela, a love story" (Photo: Netflix via AP).
And they concluded: "The secret will be
to not take the shortcomings into account as much as the possibilities
, accept the changes and celebrate what you have: a body that feels and desires."