The Queen of Swords card/Walla system
When we enter a relationship, we want to experience the emotion and the fire - but according to the philosophy of the Tarot, they are almost meaningless in a real relationship.
Yes, that's right.
So what is the real secret of a successful relationship?
What is its driving and preserving power?
What do couples who have been happily together for 50 years do?
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In Tarot there are four series of cards that reflect the four elements:
Cups reflect emotion and abundance, coins represent stability and physical satisfaction (not necessarily financial, although everyone tends to think so), staffs represent fire, passion and desire,
and swords
?
The most disgusting swords, they reflect decisions, logic, power to cut things from our lives, sharpness and struggle.
So why, in the name of all the cards, are the swords the most important to us for a relationship?
After all, common sense says that first of all you need fire, passion, mutual interest.
Yes, that's true.
Cups are important for emotional abundance, for love, connection and intimacy - true.
The coins are necessary for grounding, physical attraction, the ability to build a life together and regular habits - of course.
So why do we need swords?
The King of Swords: Why is it so important for us to relate?/ShutterStock
So here I won't lie to you: the swords are the only element in this life that gives us strength to hold on even in moments when there is a little less passion and the fire goes out for a moment or even changes to the fire of anger.
In moments when there is financial or physical difficulty and the foundation of the currency is not at its peak, in moments when the crazy infatuation of the beginning decreases a little, and there are emotional fluctuations or difficulty.
What do we do when the good elements in a relationship lose their strength?
So - only the swords will get us out of this.
The sword is our ability to cut through difficulty, to endure, to focus on the supreme goal which is life together.
And - both sides should very much want to continue the positive and constructive struggle for the common bond.
It's not for nothing that the words we remember most from the marriage vows in American movies are: in riches and in poverty, in sickness and in health.
It's not for nothing that we are reminded that marriage is no picnic - because we need to sharpen the element of air in us, the swords from the very beginning, and grasp the not-so-romantic concept of living together.
There are enormous moments of happiness and there are difficulties - quite a few.
And by the way, it really doesn't have to be a nightmare, it can make us love warriors.
For strong, sharp, skilled people who know how to solve problems.
With a sword - you need to know how to use it correctly.
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Jacko Willink, one of the amazing gurus in the United States, was a fighter in the American army for many years.
He is a muscular, scary, powerful, brilliant type, with tremendous experience in warfare and managing human resources in complex situations, and he has also learned a great deal about managing married life.
In his podcast he describes the scene we all know in one way or another.
He gets up in the morning and his wife is seething with anger because the espresso machine is not working (the truth is, maybe it was another machine in the house - this is an old video).
She is angry and does not understand why the machine does not work.
Now, Jacko knows that the first instinct of any exhausted average husband who has to take care of a thousand tasks this morning is to say: "Princess, this is really very infuriating, but there are hungry people in Africa, I have to go manage 150 people, and all in all, the espresso machine broke this morning." .
Now Jacko asks his fellow panelist: "What are you saying? How will such a conversation end?"
So Jacko explains: even when my wife or I have a "small" problem, we are still a team, and this attitude should be maintained throughout the relationship.
What I will answer to my wife is: "Yo, it's really messed up that a new machine broke down like that.. What nerves. Wait, then what should we do?"
Then my wife probably answers: "Calling the company's technician, I'm on it."
And at this point all I have left is to tell her "It's not up to you - thank you!"
And it's true that it will take a bit of patience and breathing that we need to take, but the time we will invest in the conversation is exactly the same time - and the result is different from end to end.
So the sword doesn't cut.
she is smart
When we are under the influence of swords we think about interpersonal dynamics, consequences and emotional intelligence.
We do not "cut" our partner.
Each of us has tactics for maintaining connections, ways in which we try to calculate where we will end up if we take a certain path.
Will it end in a fight?
Or in the increased strength of our sense of team?
The bottom line is this:
if we don't learn how to persevere, overcome common problems, go through fights peacefully, overcome difficulties even on days when the relationship does not flow smoothly - we are lost, and the "softer" foundations will not save us.
True, we always want the relationship to be full of fire, wealth, emotion, but the sword?
The sword is the one that protects and preserves all our hard work.
So I remind you to write to me in the comments who wants a message, on what topic, and in short - what is your situation.
I hope I can help.
The author is Sagi Mandelbaum, director of the School of Personal Fulfillment, Tarot and Dreams, author of the bestseller "The Guide to Reading the Tarot Cards", deals in classical homeopathy, has 28 years of experience in studying and teaching courses and workshops on personal development, tarot and dreams which he delivers on Zoom, in Tel Aviv, and in other cities throughout the country.
Tarot cards and more - on Sagi's website.
"Sagi Mandelbaum | Personal empowerment, tarot and dreams" - Sagi's Instagram.
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