In these complex days, it is more difficult for all of us in our daily lives.
The simple things sometimes lose importance and we may even have forgotten that Valentine's is around the corner.
In preparation for the day of love, two couples in their third year - one who has been in a relationship for almost 70 years, and one who found love anew in the sheltered housing "up to 120", told us how love sustains them in these complex days, what love looks like in their third year and what advice they can give to couples Young people.
Yehoshua Tzur and Matia Shuval met ten years ago in sheltered housing for up to 120 in Tel Aviv.
He celebrated his 95th birthday last week, and she is a few years younger than him.
"One day, after two or three years of living here, my friend Rebekah told me that there was a tenant here that she thought would suit me very well. He was very handsome, so I said we'd give it a try, which is my luck and his. Since then, we've been together for ten years and he's my best friend It's good that I had him in my life. He makes my life wonderful," Matia tells us.
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Matia Shovel became a widow at the age of 33 and lived most of her adult life alone, raising her two daughters.
She says that she hardly knew any of them relationships between spouses and a new world opened up to her from the relationship with Yehoshua.
"I wanted to give her a good life, I even went with her to buy nice clothes."
Joshua says.
According to Matia, he is the stylist among them.
"I know exactly what will suit her and what will look good on her, she consults with me about choosing outfits or buying a new sweater and I'm happy to be there for her."
Love in the third age is different from love earlier in life
Matia and Joshua say that at this age, there is time to do what there was no time to do before.
The physical aspect is also present, but it used to be more present.
"Today we really enjoy each other's company" says Matia, "Yohshua is such an interesting man, he has knowledge on so many subjects and I can sit and listen to him talk for hours."
A relationship that helps in difficult times
Matia and Yehoshua already learned first hand how significant a relationship can be when going through difficult times and in general difficult things in life.
Both of them had a difficult life, Joshua's son fell in the Second Lebanon War and this is something he has lived with every day since.
His attitude is that life should be lived in the best possible way and this is also reflected in his relationship with Matia.
Both say that in difficult moments the relationship has a very significant effect: "In a relationship at this age, and at any age, we hold each other in times of difficulty and crisis. We encourage each other, support each other and create a bond that cannot be explained."
Gadi and Tova Schleifer met in 1957 at a dance party of mutual friends.
Gadi was 18 and Tova was 17, he liked her out of all the girls at the party and since then they haven't been apart even for a day.
Today he is 85 years old and she is 84 years old, they have been living together in sheltered housing up to 120 in Tel Aviv for 13 years and their relationship is stronger than ever.
The secret of success
After almost 70 years of relationship, Gadi says that the thing he likes most about Tova is the friend she is to him and the mother, grandmother and great-grandmother she is to the family.
He advises young couples: "The most important thing in a relationship is understanding, giving up. You need to know what to insist on and what you can give up. You need to know the essence of your partner and know where everything she does comes from, and that's how to understand her and vice versa."
Gadi and Tova got married in a military wedding while Gadi was serving in the army.
They lived with Tova's parents for the first year of their marriage until their eldest daughter was born and then moved to the city of Ashdod.
Tova founded the 'Shazar' elementary school in Ashdod, while Gadi held senior positions in an electrical company, volunteered for the police, went to a police officer course and founded a new unit, all this at the same time as volunteering in a variety of fields.
Going through the period together
over the years that Gadi and Tova have been together A word or two, and they also supported each other in times of national crisis. But the recent period, according to them, posed new challenges to them as well, as to many of us; "This period is very difficult for me," says Gadi, "I was a battalion major in the army, I dealt a lot with security, and that's why I feel very connected to the event, I have to see and hear everything. My wife Tova, on the other hand, is unable to hear the news and tries to disconnect as much as possible. The relationship helps us a lot in this difficult situation. We support each other, encourage each other, are always there for each other."
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