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This new survey is particularly relevant in light of Valentine's Day approaching - that annual orgy of itchy lace panties, scentless cloned roses and empty teddy bears.
It's a busy day for some singles, and if its proximity makes you feel unsafe or wonder where the hell you're going to find the time and energy to inject some romance into your life, you can take comfort (even a lot) from the findings of this French survey that undermined the world capital of romance.
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It turns out that even there everything is far from good, because even in the land of sex and freedom People are having less and less sex.
According to data from a survey conducted by the French Institute of Public Opinion (IFOP), yes, French sexuality is at half-mast, with almost a quarter of its residents between the ages of 18 and 69 having had zero sex in the past year.
Across all regions, the French are consistently having less sex than at any time since the 1970s.
Also across a cross section of age groups.
In fact, 28% of 18- to 24-year-olds said they had never had sex, a huge increase on data collected in 2006, when it was just 5%.
As Hefzibah Anderson wrote for the Guardian, since the sex-positivity that has shaped our culture since the 1960s, sex-negativity is overtaking it.
Indeed, Gen Z are so repulsed by the idea, they don't even want to see it on TV shows.
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Whether you call it a "sexual recession", a "sexual recession" or simply a reality, this is a trend that has been creeping up on us for decades, and the corona epidemic didn't help either - the predicted post-covid baby boom?
Did not happen.
This place probably saw a big increase in pet ownership.
Perhaps another sign of the death of physical intimacy.
There are a variety of other reasons for the decline in sexual activity, starting with the reversal of Roe v Wade, which was cited by the respondents to the annual survey of the dating website Match as one of the reasons for the decline in desire, to the erosion of dating apps that permeates generations of childbearing age.
In addition, there is life - a great many people suffer from anxieties about career and money, not to mention the anti-depressants that are prescribed en masse to calm them down.
Another interesting reason cited in the French survey was that women no longer feel obligated to have sex when they don't want to.
Better education and proper payment for their work allowed them these luxuries, apparently.
Also a withdrawal of the social stigma on single women, along with medical advances that allow having children without men.
Another important parameter that is relevant is that active libido is linked to the image of toxic masculinity, and let's face it, in recent years there have been many horrible stories related to sex, from the revelations of the #MeToo movement to the incessant use of rape as a weapon of war.
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It may be that the new health culture also plays a role here - we have developed a somewhat masochistic relationship with our physicality, in the midst of a glamorous lifestyle and self-discipline, it seems that people are busy non-stop with fasting, and cleansing and femininity and wading in cold water.
Could it be that all these have distanced us from the idea that the body may also be a source of pleasure?
What is particularly strange is that the world around us is becoming more blatantly sexual than ever before.
Changes that supposedly made us more open about sex, because in fact anything goes (freedom that can be experienced as stressful in itself).
Millennials and Generation Z came of age close to porn movies - hardcore porn - from every generation before them.
The mostly male point of view seems like a recipe for a very problematic attitude towards sex, and a high consumption of porn is indeed related to a deterioration in the enjoyment of the act itself.
Porn also accelerated the assimilation of 'marginal tastes' such as aggressive sex and erotic degradation.
All by consent, of course, based on the assumption that everyone, of all ages and situations, is able to say 'no' in vulnerable moments.
All in all, it's not hard to understand why people decide that sex just isn't for them.
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