This
Valentine's Day,
many are wondering about their compatibility with another zodiac sign.
It is said that Scorpio and Taurus complement each other or that Capricorn and Aquarius are not the best combination.
But astrology has more to say, it does not reduce a possible affinity to a single sign.
“What attracts us to others (beyond their sun sign) is part of our own birth chart,” says astrologer and author
Beatriz Leveratto
.
Consulted by
Clarín
, Leveratto explains that generally “we are summoned by those who vibrate in tones similar to those of our natal map” and that we discover our own qualities that we have not recognized in ourselves.
Therefore, knowing how our birth chart is made up is very revealing, since we are much more than our sun sign.
The astrologer clarifies that before looking for which sign we get along with “well” or “it is convenient” for us to form a couple, “it is good to meditate on
what we understand by love
. Is it comfort and convenience? Or does it imply complex challenges of self-knowledge?”
By knowing this we can develop a better bond with ourselves and others.
To explain in depth how we sometimes feel exaggeratedly attracted or bothered by another, outside of the simplistic that “opposites attract,” the astrologer cites
Carl Gustav Jung
.
According to the Swiss psychologist, we all form the collective unconscious: a universal information field made up of all individual psyches.
"A great consciousness that is made up of
opposing and antagonistic forces
loaded with tensions that produce '
sparks
', vital energy or libido and that interrelates us on different levels: energetic, physical and psychic," says Leveratto.
In short, these powerful connections that we cannot explain to another person actually refer to our own denied energy, our “shadow.”
“An
intense attraction
is a symbol of a strong unconscious desire to understand fragments of our totality that we have not integrated.
By recognizing ourselves in the couple we recover these aspects: both difficulties and talents,” says the author.
Leveratto says that a strong attraction symbolizes the aspects we have not seen in ourselves.
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For the astrologer, love relationships are not only spaces of complete happiness and harmony.
In fact, she refers to Jung when she says that the couple is also “the best space” to
encounter the rejected
and projected of ourselves, our shadow aspects.
“Falling in love is feeling an irrational attraction because it comes loaded with projections, whoever attracts us mirrors our own internal dynamics,” says Leveratto.
Every relationship is an opportunity to discover our own soul, especially when the other does not meet our ideals.
“Love relationships are a source of excitement and motivation, but also of renunciation and disappointment.”
The astrologer indicates that each link has
phases of vitality and eroticism
, and also stages of questioning, death and rebirth.
Sometimes, she adds, “dismantling the spells of love is an arduous journey because it reveals our own ghosts.”
Astrology remembers that the couple also shows our ghosts and shadows.
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So, to connect with the transformative and initiatory meaning of each love, Leveratto details
what projections and learnings
our attraction to zodiacal couples of the four astrological elements suggests.
If we are attracted to Fire personalities: Aries, Leo or Sagittarius
“We are attracted to his expressive capacity and his unpunished style of appearing to minimize other people's opinions.
They are intense, extroverted and
self-confident, we usually reflect in them our ability to take risks,” explains the astrologer.
In his opinion, the more we are fascinated by its spontaneity, the more we should observe whether we allow ourselves to express ourselves, to bet boldly on what we are passionate about.
“Aries, Leo and Sagittarius show us (by unconscious comparison) our level of difficulty in taking risks and some authentic leadership,” he adds.
Aries, Leo or Sagittarius are overwhelming and passionate people.
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The thing is that, although “fiery” is the first thing we think of when these signs are named, the astrologer clarifies: “A Fire couple does
not come to satisfy our needs for applause
;
On the contrary, by being by your side you can become a vital stimulus and an example to follow.
Their confidence and enthusiasm infects us to deploy our creative potential.”
Of course, since these personalities are self-referential and do not adapt to other people's expectations, "the sooner
we abandon the attempt to control them
or impose our will, the better this bond will flow," the author recommends.
It will also be important to understand that these natives will not “fill our voids,” as their attention is focused on their own projects.
“We can demand attention from
Aries, Leo or Sagittarius
, but we will only increase the fights,” warns Leveratto.
Fire signs stimulate us with their own rhythm and passion, but they focus on their own plans.
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If we fall in love with any of these three fiery signs, the specialist believes that the most advisable thing to do would be to “take advantage of the relationship so that the bond becomes a
seed of transformation
that promotes mutual appreciation and a stimulus for the independence of both.”
If we are attracted to Earth people: Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn
“We are attracted to their
pragmatic capacity, their efficiency
and their objective clarity,” says the astrologer.
It is common that our own personal insecurity leads us to project stability and support onto them.”
Reliable, responsible and attentive to resources, falling in love with Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn invites us to evaluate how confident we are to sustain ourselves and how calm we feel to face and solve life's problems.
Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn teach us to be patient, tenacious and efficient.
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In that sense, Leveratto warns: “Loving someone from the land usually
tempts us to give them the decision-making power
and let them help us, who always seem more solvent and secure.”
It is important, he adds, that we avoid delegating our support capacity to them.
"These relationships invite us to evaluate our economic deployment and how much we care about responding to social expectations about 'solid' and constructive achievements," he says.
Faced with the fascinating capacity for containment of
Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn
, the author also recommends staying alert so that eroticism is not lost.
“We can get trapped in disagreements and complaints, feeling that the other does not respond to the expectations of economic
and
emotional
support
that we had placed at the beginning.
If we manage to overcome the temptation of giving our own power to the other, it is likely that this bond will make us more decisive and pragmatic,” explains Leveratto.
Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn commit, but it is crucial that the eroticism is not lost.
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Falling in love with someone from Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn suggests that we value and apply the patience, perseverance and calm typical of the earth element in our lives.
If we are attracted to people of Air: Gemini, Libra or Aquarius
“We fall in love with
their ability to socialize
, experiment and be open to different relationships and challenges,” says the astrologer.
We tend to reflect adaptability and movement in them when it would be ideal to ask ourselves how much we have displayed these talents in our own life.”
Gemini, Libra and Aquarius have great mental breadth.
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According to the astrologer, relationships with personalities of the air element offer us the opportunity to learn to tolerate changes in plans and accept very different people.
In fact, unpredictability is part of their way of seeing life.
In these bonds “
there are no molds to follow
or rules to impose, rather they ask us to trust our own dynamic and flexible couple model.”
If you are with a Gemini, Libra or Aquarius person there is one fundamental word:
freedom
.
These natives
will preserve their individuality
and will need to feel that they have their own spaces.
If we do not understand this, the relationship may fall into displays of disinterest, coldness or distrust and failed attempts at control.
If we feel that there is too much distance, Leveratto assures that it will be important to “
find an open mind
and the right words to communicate intimately and deeply, trusting that the other will have good listening skills.”
Love with Air signs will not be tied to conventions or mandates.
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In general, the expert points out that these are loves “of
a complex and dynamic singularity
” that are constantly changing.
They go through expansive moments and also periods in which we feel that the bond is shrinking.
The latter "does not imply that there is disinterest, but to pretend that there is only one gratifying version is to not understand the subtle nature of the personalities of Gemini, Libra or Aquarius."
“If we accept and recognize these changes in ourselves, we will become more tolerant of our partner's moods and moods,” says the astrologer.
If we are attracted to Water people: Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces
“We fall in love with his
emotional intensity
, his emotional commitment and his deep feelings.
We reflect in them a talent for generating closeness and loving containment.
These relationships invite us to self-evaluate how much we dare to give and ask for protection,” explains Leveratto.
Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces make you fall in love with your sensitivity and capacity for containment.
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Immersing yourself in the sentimental depth of Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces directly refers to our own emotions. Do we dare to get to know ourselves and
dive into our sentimental nuances
?
These
three Water signs
enable us to navigate all emotions, even those that do not have good press such as melancholy, jealousy, fears and excessive dependencies.
“We must accept that loving the water element will include moments in which we will feel suffocated and excessively demanded,” the specialist warns, “the more we manage to recognize our
own emotional complexity
, the healthier this relationship will become.”
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The reality is that feeling attracted to
Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces
makes us see “our own sentimental voracity that we have not recognized in ourselves.”
According to the expert, the more the alchemy of this relationship occurs, the more we will identify those emotions without judging ourselves.
Therefore, he adds, if we see that the
hyperdependent style
that usually occurs in these couples is decreasing, it is a good sign.
The work of the relationship will be to discern together what the needs are versus the excessive demands.
If we achieve this, Leveratto points out that we will experience a bond with greater consciousness and achieve powerful soul healing.
Relationships between couples can always be revealing and healing.
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So, regardless of the sign of who we love, Leveratto maintains that all connections can provide us with extraordinary wealth.
“The journey to our depths that relationships call us to can be very demanding and painful, but it is always highly revealing and healing.”
The astrologer, tarot reader and author Beatriz Leveratto advised. On Instagram, @bealeveratto.