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“Why did he do this to me?” »: how to recover from a friendly betrayal

2024-02-23T06:12:45.181Z

Highlights: Friendship is based on the meeting of two consonant and usually unconscious imaginations. A betrayal can take the form of negligence, or attitudes considered considered hurtful. ‘Friendship’ is a bit like the ideal relationship that we have not been able to experience with our parents or our brothers and sisters,’ says the author of the book “Friendly Betrayal,” which is published by Simon & Schuster at a cost of £16.99.


PSYCHO ADVICE - We idealize our friends so much that their betrayals can create deep wounds in us.


Boulevard theater does not necessarily invite friendly betrayal.

Certainly, this can take the form of romantic infidelity.

But what we perceive as a betrayal can also be found in negligence, antagonistic points of view or attitudes considered hurtful.

Each of us has one day experienced, with a mixture of astonishment and anger, this painful question:

“Why did he do this to me?

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As Jean Maisonneuve, professor of social psychology, writes in “Psychology of Friendship” (PUF),

“affinity is based (…) on the meeting of two consonant and usually unconscious imaginations where ideality plays a big role ".

Betrayal then appears like a disastrous blow to this absolute.

“Friendship is a bit like the ideal relationship that we have not been able to experience with our parents or our brothers and sisters,”

explains Saverio Tomasella, psychologist and psychoanalyst, author of “A Thousand…

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Source: lefigaro

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