It's important to experience the feelings associated with the breakup, but you shouldn't dwell on negative thoughts. In fact, it's helpful to write these down.
For many people, getting over a broken relationship is one of the most painful processes in life. The loss of a boyfriend, girlfriend or wife or husband is often associated with profound, sometimes traumatic feelings. The psychologist Dr. Kim Maertz from the Mental Health Center at the University of Alberta in Edmonton (Canada) knows from daily practice that a separation activates very stressful feelings, even suicidal thoughts. Younger people in particular cannot yet fall back on possible, already experienced coping strategies - what would remain would be a kind of despair, from which those affected would find it difficult to escape in some cases. This makes strategies all the more important so that the separation can be overcome as well as possible. The psychologist gives those affected valuable tips that can help them deal better with the end of the relationship.
Coping with separation using psychological strategies
Strategies for better coping do not prevent the pain of loss. But they can help you overcome the end of a relationship better so that you can ultimately look forward to the new phase of your life with confidence:
Don't fight your own feelings that allow you to grieve:
A breakup is often accompanied by a variety of strong and negative feelings, including sadness, anger, confusion, bitterness, jealousy, fear and regret. Anyone who tries to ignore or suppress them often prolongs the healthy grieving process. In order to get over a breakup, acknowledging the feelings associated with it and allowing them to exist is extremely important.
Get help and talk about your feelings:
Talking to supportive friends and family, or even a psychologist, can help ease some of the pain. This should be done to a healthy extent, as discussing problems can have exactly the opposite effect and worsen your mood.
Write down feelings and thoughts:
In addition to talking to others, it can be very liberating to write down your own thoughts and feelings related to the breakup. It can help to reflect and take a different, new perspective.
Avoid self-blame:
It's natural to blame yourself after a breakup, but it's far more helpful to see the end of the relationship as the result of different needs and incompatibilities for which neither is to blame. Ultimately, no one usually enters into a relationship with the goal of making it fail later or hurting the other person. An end is difficult for both sides - even for the person who initiated the separation.
Maintain self-care:
Despite the pain of the separation, the shock and the anger, it is important to pay attention to your own basic needs, eat regularly and healthily, exercise enough, get some fresh air and get enough sleep. When you are rested, you can deal with crises better both physically and mentally.
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After a breakup: routine provides stability
After a separation, according to Maertz, it is important to get back into a certain normality and everyday routine, for example through fixed bedtimes and wake-up times, regular meals for stable health and pursuing hobbies. The grief caused by the end of a relationship often feels like it lasts forever, “but it doesn't if we deal with it in a healthy way. As difficult as it is, if you accept and allow the feelings, you can speed up the grieving process,” says psychologist Dr. Maertz.
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