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Too little, too late: Sarit Hadad came out of the closet, but the damage has already been done - Walla! culture

2021-09-19T12:41:26.761Z

Sarit Hadad's late exit from the closet is important. But it will no longer repair the damage that 20 years of lockers have already done, in which the Israeli media has been fully conservative. Luckily the year is 2021 and no one cares anymore. Even outing is already a non-item and on the coward's head the hat burns opinion



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Too little, too late: Sarit Hadad came out of the closet, but the damage had already been done

Sarit Hadad's late exit from the closet is important.

But it will no longer repair the damage that 20 years of lockers have already done, in which the Israeli media has been fully conservative.

Luckily the year is 2021 and no one cares anymore.

Even outing is already a non-item and on the coward's head the hat burns |

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David Wertheim

Sunday, 19 September 2021, 15:05 Updated: 15:38

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This opinion may be self-explanatory, but sometimes even behind recycled opinions there is a truth that must be said over and over again, as gays who come out of the closet - have to do it again and again all their lives. Once in front of parents, then in front of friends, then in work, then in the Ministry of the Interior, in the municipality and sometimes in front of the flight attendant.



And the truth is that the departure of the singer - perhaps the most popular in Israel - Sarit Hadad from the closet, is made too little and too late.



Yes, yes, the arguments in favor of closets are familiar and tiring: "No one should judge", "No man and his pace", "Maybe the family does not know" and of course - that mythological grandmother, who is always there and everyone is afraid that this unbearable news will bring her to her death !

But the truth is much simpler.

Most often, a late exit from the closet is the result of a fear of confrontation with the meanings and change, first between the person and himself.

But standing in this closet darkness for so many years is a privilege that may exist for accountants or city clerks.

When it comes to a popular public figure like Haddad who feeds and earns a living from the love of the audience, it is not certain that she has the moral right to do so.

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Of course, all this only deepened the subtext: if everything is allowed to be talked about beyond that - it is probably a terrible shame

And there is another argument, mainly racist, that the fact that Hadad stayed in the closet is related to her being a Mediterranean / Oriental singer, and therefore had more difficulty making the move both in front of her family and in front of the audience. I find it hard to think of a more racist and divisive argument. First of all: Haddad is one of the favorite singers in the Israeli mainstream. Describing her or her audience as "Oriental" is like describing the audience of Omar Adam or Eden Ben Zaken as such. I suggest to anyone who holds this argument to check the play data in Galgalatz (not really a Mediterranean station), watch reality singing on the most powerful channels in Israel or visit a wedding in Ramat Hasharon. He is guaranteed surprises.



Along with supporting it, it is worth remembering that Haddad's great damage has already been done.

For 20 years fans (and fans) have lived under the loose and flattering media coverage of a singer whose main message on the subject was that homosexuality is a shame.

Mila Hadad was a Yehudit Ravitz who hid in the dishes and was not willing to cooperate with campaigns or gossip.

But there seems to be almost no door that Haddad has not opened over the years to entertainment and gossip reporters.

About the daughter who was born, and then the second, color articles about the house she bought, the furniture she chose, and endless magazine interviews that went down to the deepest personal resolution.

And all under the unwritten contract with the media: I cooperate with the advertising - you with the secret.

Of course, all this only deepened the subtext: if everything is allowed to be talked about other than that - it is probably a terrible shame.

Terrible shame?

Sarit Hadad (Photo: screenshot, YouTube)

So here's a rule of thumb that is always true: the thought that somewhere in the room of 2010 or of Kiryat Gat of 2018 sat a 15-year-old lesbian who adored Haddad and realized that it is better to lie, create a false truth of love for men (like most of Haddad's songs), talk about it all. What not to talk about) and talk again and again in the conservative terminology of "sexual orientation" which buries pride and reduces it to the "bedroom" - the thought of doing all this is better than admitting that you are a lesbian, it is not empowering but saddening.



The only happy fact is that Haddad was not alone in "Shame," but she is certainly her last remnant. It is now clear that the community is much stronger than a famous singer or politician who is all waiting to be heard. To come out of the closet in a year where there are at least 5 gay MKs and ministers, which even the Rishon Lezion and Ramat Gan municipalities subsidize the Pride Parade, and after the High Court ruled that gays can also perform surrogacies in Israel, only proves how much pride has become a flag. Its relevance and connection to the public.



And a word about community leaders like Ran Danker and Harel Skaat, who also chose to come out of the closet after years of denials, at a time when there was no longer any social need for them: they are not exactly a standard for courage.

MK Itzik Shmuli and many others.

The least you can do after doing so much damage is get out of the closet and into the bunker.

Do not preach.

In the Israeli cultural world, there are enough pioneers and generators of change, such as Ivri Lider and, of course, Dana International, who paved the highway for the community.

Let's save them the medal.

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