Omar Adam thinks that if someone is Russian and drinks, she must be "giving".

God, how dangerous that is

Omar Adam built a time machine for the nineties and made me, as a Russian, someone who loves alcohol and someone who made it easy to get into bed.

Sorry, this mediocre song just does not make me laugh

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Anna Board

05/01/2022

Wednesday, 05 January 2022, 00:00

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Songs, like salted fish, are all a matter of taste. Even before the debate over whether it is racist or merging, Omar Adam's "Cocktail" is to my taste at least not a good song, at most a mediocre song with lazy writing and catchy melody. This is not a work of art so great and high-quality, deep or poignant that its right to be heard out loud should be defended. Or on the other hand to fight to boycott it.

And yet, if so many people are offended by your song - it may be really insulting, and not that all the chirps are people without a sense of humor. Women who immigrated from Russia thirty years ago - and even less so - have since learned a few more words besides "Knight" and "De." The song "Cockatoo" just does not make them funny.

Why?

Because the sexual connotation is deeply rooted in this song.

If in the nineties the equation was that all Russians are engaged in prostitution, over time the stigma has been perfected: being Russian means that you are "giving" (and what is "giving" at all? Someone who allows someone to have sex with her? Unlike others who do not agree?).

If you're Russia then it's easy to get you in bed, and you agree to do things that women of other backgrounds will not do.

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How do I know? Because I see the eyes light up in men when they find out I'm Russian. When I was a girl, I got excited about it. "I'm Russia, you know," she adds with a wink. This is how it is when you're in high school. You want to be loved, no matter what. It is by the way not reserved for Russian women only. And even if deep down you think suppose you are a sexually liberated woman and you want it for yourself - you do not really know anything about sexual liberation. Both because you are young, and also because in Israel talking about sexual liberation is like talking in Russia about LGBT rights. To be a sexually liberated woman, you will be said to be "giving".

Consciously or not - let's win Omar Adam out of doubt just for the mental exercise, and also because he reminds his defense that he is Caucasian - "Kakdila" preserves all that and more.

In a dumb wordplay in the chorus as he sings "And she's not at all ha-ha," and the head runs to "And she's not a virgin at all," a man like builds a time machine for the nineties.

She's Russian, she's drunk, she's not a virgin.

So she "gives".

Come and take.

How dangerous it is.

And even before that, how idiotic it is.

So what if she's not a virgin?

Women of other backgrounds are yes virgins?

And what does it matter?

In short, Wat de Pak.

Medium song.

Adam (Photo: Shay Franco)

But if in terms of man and the great poets beside him the body of the non-virgins who are also drunk is now allowed to all, I understand it is a bit like saying about a woman who was sexually assaulted that she wore a skirt that was too short, that "she drank" and "she wanted it". Completely confusing between a woman who wants, mercifully, to have sex, a woman who decides to put the limit, or a woman who is not in a position to put limits and therefore should be kept. And in any case the man did not set any boundaries for himself.

Sure say I'm heavy, digging and Omar Adam "all laughs". But that's exactly the point. When you want to be "one of the guys" you also laugh, the so-called "flowing". But when you are on the other side, when you are sexually harassed, when you are attacked, when you say "no" and you set boundaries but the man with you crosses them, you become a woman who loses both humor and innocence. You become alert, on guard. First of all so that it does not happen to you again, and then if you have more power in you, fight that it does not happen to others. Statistically, one in three women is sexually assaulted during her lifetime - meaning at least one in three women will someday lose the ability to laugh at these things. When you are of Russian descent (or the former Soviet Union in general), and in fact the stereotype about you in the State of Israel is directly related to your sexuality, it is also not a big hit, especially when we are already three decades after the great immigration from there.

Minister Merav Michaeli entered Omar Adam on this song and Omar Adam entered it again when he published allegations against her of abusing a worker and offered her: "Breathe."

After quite a bit of criticism on the net, it has become a spin where a man is a knight of rights and Michaeli, like all feminists, is the woman without a sense of humor.

Instead of attacking the person who criticizes the song, Omar Adam can take for granted that there are quite a few people that this song has hurt and breathe on his own, maybe even apologize - or as they say it in the language of the stigmas: to go out a man.

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