Two from "New Love": "When an era started with me I was shocked, I wanted to erase this moment"
Shani Golan from "New Love": "Leaving religion was like coming out of the closet for me, I lived a lie in front of the family"
Summer Berbner, Maariv
24/04/2022
Sunday, 24 April 2022, 11:54 Updated: 11:59
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Shani is debating whether to continue with Michael (Network 13)
The decision to look for love on TV was not an easy one for Shani Golan, the star of the reality show "New Love" which is currently broadcast on Network 13, in which Golan and three other single women entered a networked house, each choosing a man to spend three days with.
In addition to the usual confrontation with the television exposure, for Golan, participation in the program also flooded the process of leaving the religious world that took place not long before the program was filmed.
"I grew up in a very religious home," she says now.
"Getting into a show like this and looking for love on TV is super revealing. A lot of people I knew in my youth still didn't know I left this world, even in my family it was never said out loud and very clearly. Still, it's a relationship show, the most intimate thing going to be "On the screen. It goes against where I come from."
What made you participate in the program?
"I wanted to find an unconventional way of dating, I gave up on the usual ways. I tried everything. I wanted to do something different. It was going to be terribly difficult, I had to get out of the box. The plan was a solution."
Weren't you afraid of losing your privacy?
"I was very hesitant before entering the program, I was very afraid to give up privacy, but I said to myself: 'Come on, live once', it's a crazy experience. I will only have such an opportunity once in a lifetime, with all the difficulty of giving up my privacy."
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How did your parents deal with the exposure?
"My parents do not see the show, they received a very clear instruction from me not to watch. My mother can not handle it. She saw a small part of the first episode, they get updates from the environment. It is very difficult that I can not tell my mother about it. She. Not in this world, she's in her world, but it's so liberating. : 'This is the situation, I'm not the same religious girl you thought I was.' I told her she had to learn to accept it. We had a difficult conversation, but it took a block from my heart. "Of religion in my life. I do not lecture anymore, I do what is right for me."
It sounds like coming out of the closet.
"It's totally like coming out of the closet. You live in this world, you try to please people, you want to continue in the parents' way. As for my mother, she failed in education. Before that I lived a false life in front of the family, but I'm 35, I stopped wanting. ".
At first in the program you did not want to reveal your age.
Why?
"Everyone asks me why it's so hard for me to say age. It's not because I'm 35, single and I run out of eggs. I'm a girl who started living her life at 32. Religious and ultra-Orthodox women, as well as women who have gone out of religion, write to me: 'I passed "Your way. I have a hard time with the fact that I reached the age of 35, and I feel like I did not live the life I wanted for many years. I never imagined myself with a wedding dress, I am not stressed to get married, but I have lost years living in a world that did not suit me."
intuition.
Michael (Photo: Screenshot, Network 13 New Love)
These days, the days on which Golan spent with Michael Namirovsky, 32, from Tel Aviv, a specialist in plastic medicine who lives a secular lifestyle, are broadcast on screen.
In the episode that will be broadcast tonight (April 24, after the news, Network 13), Golan's sister-in-law, who lives a religious lifestyle, will come to meet Namirovsky and give him a lesson in the Psalms.
At the end of the chapter, Golan will choose whether to continue his acquaintance with him.
What was the consideration for choosing Michael from among the singles offered to you?
"I decided I was going by intuition. I saw that I was attracted to him. I came to this election from the belly. In the end we had a connection with humor and understanding. We broadcast on the same wave. A lot of people raised an eyebrow at my choice. I walk down the street and women stop me and ask: 'Why "Why?" Even my mother said, "Why did you choose that one with the tattoos?", From the little she saw. "As a devout religious person. I thought it was something I could deal with. You can live in coexistence in this matter. You can find the way."
Why did you decide to bring your sister-in-law to meet Michael?
"We are very connected, she is my best friend. She repented following the wedding with my brother. She came from a very secular world, and she decided to bring the religious world to Michael. She tried to show him the roots I came from, the place I came from. "To see in the episode that Michael is not so connected, he does not understand what we are doing. I saw that it was difficult for him, he did not connect in any way, he felt uncomfortable in the situation."
Terrible condition.
Idan (left) (Photo: Screenshot, Network 13 New Love)
Last week, a storm arose after an episode where the four couples had a joint meal, in which Idan Masuri, the partner of the participant Dana Ben-Ari, approached the Golan while his partner went to the bathroom, and among other things told her: "I am not attracted to all this grandiose thing, "Your style, this quiet, attracts me more than noise and ringing."
The situation was interpreted as if he was trying to start with her, and after being criticized, Masuri explained in the post: "I wanted to share. I was looking for a listening ear.
How did you feel in this situation?
"Idan took a very unwise step that put me in an uncomfortable place. It was a terrible situation for me, I was in an unpleasant situation. On the one hand I did not want to ruin a good company, they did develop something beautiful there. On the other hand, she is a friend and I would like her to tell me If for that matter Michael would do it for her. It is neither appropriate nor masculine, I was in the market. "A lot of people wanted to know if I told Dana at the end, they asked how I felt, they told me they saw that I was terribly uncomfortable. I'm not flattered by this in any way, I'm shocked. I would like to make a delete for this moment."
Why do you think he told you that?
"I think he for a moment thought he was in reality, maybe liked something he saw, and decided to say what he thinks."
What did you find out about yourself in the program?
"I was able to understand my level of criticism, how terrible it is. Every day you do not see it, you live in a pattern of behavior. It helps to see it from the side and understand what I can release, how to be softer. I also see that I am a strong and honest woman, I Brings my truth, I get a lot of responses. People connect to authenticity, I have no masks, neither in life nor in the show. I give chances, I really give a real chance - something we do not do much outside. Even with Michael - there are gaps, and I "Trying to bridge them and give it a chance. That's important."
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