How many of us has this happened to?
Wanting to confide in someone close to us, we are quickly interrupted by a rejoinder of the style
“Imagine that I experienced the same thing not long ago.”
A long monologue follows which completely discourages you from pouring out.
Or it's a colleague who, in response to our worry about not succeeding in a task, reassures us with a quick
“Don't worry, you'll manage it!”,
before turning on our heels.
Being able to truly listen to one's fellow human beings is not innate.
Besides, let's be honest: each of us has at one time or another taken on the role of the failing listener.
Failing, but not necessarily the only culprit:
“The first difficulty, for the person who wants to be listened to, is to know how to choose the moment
, explains Alain Braconnier, psychologist, psychiatrist and author of
They don't listen to me!
(Editions Odile Jacob).
We don't think about it enough because the need to be listened to often arises in crisis situations.
But whoever listens...
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