"Wedding at First Sight": Maayan, Di.

You're sweet, you're beautiful, you can not stay with Ben

Ben's learning is beautiful and important, but with all due respect, Maayan did not come to develop it, but to find a relationship;

Moshe does not recognize a situation where both parties in a relationship win thanks to consideration and these other silly things related to human relations;

Rafael and Idit are bored and Lior is already pumping eggs for Katya

Ofir Sagarsky

19/06/2022

Sunday, 19 June 2022, 08:17 Updated: 08:38

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Ben and Maayan

Ben's birthday is upon us, and a kind of upholstery in the house with gifts like Santa Claus himself, including a special gift to open "only at night", wink wink.

In less than a month they have been going out and have already kind of dismantled half a mall for him, in addition to the suite he booked for them the next day.

If my memory serves me wrong, my partner had a birthday in the month we met.

As a gift I gave him WhatsApp "Congratulations", and lo and behold, we are together to this day both of us make sure to disappoint each other every year so that there will always be somewhere to grow.

Ben, too, is a type who has to "take it slow," and he swallows the gestures that kind of pour over him like a choke cake.

She surrenders quickly because she needs the confidence and approval you want in her, and adopts a tactic that achieves the exact opposite result: to act within three weeks as if you were in a six-month relationship, hoping the partner falls for the scam, the gifts will disrupt his sense of time and he will straighten out.

Ben sees very well what Maayan is doing, but there is no good way to get someone to shower you with gifts, and yet he manages to choose the worst way.

That same night he throws his difficulty on her weight, and slips away in the morning before she also throws at him a spa invitation, a ticket to the Maldives and another half-ton of skinny buttons.

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Chooses the worst way.

Ben VeMa'ayan, "Wedding at First Sight" (Photo: Screenshot, Keshet 12)

Fear of commitment - I understand that, but what about weight now?

The contexts that happen in his brain are not clear to me, and probably to his own son, which is why, among other things, he is so tormented.

He has a salad of elements in his head that make him jump associatively from "promoting the relationship too fast" to "fat," which does not allow him to make order in what he feels.

In the meantime, he eats his head into sort of contradictory messages: afraid to hurt, afraid to get hurt, feeling comfortable, feeling distant, too real for me, too fake, too good, not good enough.

Besides, sorry, I do not eat this engraving of "inner attraction."

If you feel like fucking and if you do it with passion - a sign that they are attracted, and in this area, if you rely on the gift of the night, they seem to be fine.

Ben is attracted, but too busy with "what will the guys think" and will such a relationship return him to the status of a fat kid after all the sets he has invested in the gym.

And in other words, Ben just shares the same self-hatred mechanism common to most people, and he too wants to be accepted into a club he does not want.

There is also something liberating in this pursuit of the inconceivable.

You set before your eyes one goal - to achieve it - and pursue it forever, without preoccupying yourself with fateful questions.

For example, do I really love her or will she be suitable to raise my children.

You chase, and that's it.

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Dangle from chandeliers.

Maayan, "Wedding at First Sight" (Photo: Screenshot, Keshet 12)

Maayan is 100%.

She tends to get so close to him that he has no room left to come towards her, and you can see that physically as well, but Maayan does not currently see with his eyes.

She so wants Ben, that she clings to even the tiniest hint to get back in his arms and celebrate their chance to stay together

Also kind of loves to chase, and she will do somersaults in the air and dangle from chandeliers to get Ben's attention, only he has no idea how to deal with such an attitude.

She took his position.

"But Ophir," you will ask, "if most of us hate ourselves and always want those who do not want us, how does a relationship form at all?".

One answer is relative mental health, which will allow you not to be completely overwhelmed by gestures of love.

The second answer, is the 50% -50% method, in which each party manages to be recycled and recycled relatively equally.

Along the way there will be deviations accompanied by quarrels here or there, until you manage to establish yourself with great effort within the status quo.

Maayan is 100%.

She tends to get so close to him that he has no room left to come towards her, and you can see that physically as well, but Maayan does not currently see with his eyes.

She so wants Ben, that she clings to even the tiniest hint to get back into his arms and celebrate their chance to stay together.

And that hint is a hug.

"Ben told me in that hug that he was not ready for me to go," loads a kind of commentary.

This is the stage where a woman needs a good friend who will come to her with chocolate, a blanket and empowering messages, throw her a ringing slap and scream at her "throw him out".

D, Maine.

You are sweet, you are beautiful, you are worthy - you can not stay with someone who for him to come out with fat is equivalent to coming out of the closet.

Ben's learning himself is beautiful and important, but with all due respect, you are not an emotional surrogate.

You did not come to develop it, but to find a relationship.

In front of the cameras, a kind of empathic monologue opens for Ben's difficulties, which is actually meant to indirectly justify her staying with him.

She, too, she says, has a "knock" - she would have a hard time dating a short, small man.

But she really does not have to go out with a man like that, just as a son does not have to go out with fat, and a relationship should not be a test of light to our ability to compromise.

It is unfair neither to ourselves nor to the other person, who finds himself in the coveted role of an aesthetic challenge.

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You're not an emotional surrogate.

Maayan, "Wedding at First Sight" (Photo: Screenshot, Keshet 12)

May and Moses

What else does the girl want, besides a pulley for removing her dog's hair?

As far as Moshe is concerned, nothing, and he wondered about May's cold reaction to the thirty-seven-year-old pulley he brought home.

Both use Bray to drip hate messages to the other side.

For Moshe, the message is "clean after your disgusting dog and say thank you", and for May - "here is someone who will love me in any situation", a not very great achievement on the part of a creature that depends on you to survive.

"I asked him what he needed, and then he said, 'Let me be with my felt,'" May sobs at Yael.

Of all the statements that Moshe made in this anger, it sounds the most legitimate to me, but May is exhausted, among other things from "speaking fluent Hebrew," an important criterion for creating a successful relationship, it turns out.

For his part, Moshe tells Yael that he feels lost in whatever way of communication he chooses.

"If I walk away - she's scared, if I share her - she's scared," he calculates.

If you notice, Moshe often talks about relationships in terms of victory and loss, an oppressive tendency of lawyers.

He does not recognize a situation where two sides win, thanks to understanding, sensitivity, consideration and all these silly things related to human relations.

Ironically, therefore, Moses himself promotes the "dramas" he is so afraid of.

Even their joint conversation with Yael begins with the antagonistic statement, "I'm not starting, May be angry," a pseudo-gentleman who inevitably lays heaps of passive-aggressive.

From there he goes on to let May speak ostensibly, but intervenes in her every sentence to oversee the narrative.

"If you do not remember, do not quote me," the lawyer cuts in, continuing with an ultimatum, "if you pick up the tones I will not continue this conversation,"

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Wired to get into action with a daughter's crying.

Moshe and May, "Wedding at First Sight" (Photo: Screenshot, Keshet 12)

Like Moshe, many lawyers make up the fact that they cannot be defeated in an argument.

Most of them consider victory to be a situation where the other side has fallen silent, without realizing that they may simply be unworthy of conversation.

In the case of Moses, in reality he might have told himself that he had won, but in reality different rules.

In the competition for the viewers' hearts, he has meanwhile lost and by and large.

Maybe the thought of it is that makes him suddenly hug May, after crushing her heart again into a ball of paper and throwing it out the window.

We already know that Moshe suffers from empathy, but he has nevertheless been given an internal button to express feelings of this kind that are wired to go into action with a daughter's crying.

A new morning leaves yesterday's events behind, and they're going to meet May's parents.

An important couple event for her and for Ray, and Moshe there too.

The meeting with the parents stresses Moshe and he turns to the method of repression, whereby he is spread on the couch and stares at the phone until the reality of your life dissipates.

"Enough, zero self-awareness," mutters May, who took Yael's advice very seriously to allow herself to be angry.

"Mami, where's my wallet?", He continues in the rag shade, "Where are the pants?".

May, it turns out, does remember for him where each of his personal belongings are, a big enough turn-off even without Moshe complimenting her that she is a "woman of valor."

A meeting with her parents reveals a mirror image of her and Moshe's relationship: a mother who runs the house with a high hand, and a father who does little and complains a lot.

In the case of Father Simon he at least complains gracefully, minus a murderous look.

This relationship was not meant to last long but she would have to last at least a little longer because May's parents offered her a couple vacation at their expense.

"Now I think of the most expensive places in the country that can be 'sewn'," May dreams.

Oh, the magic of love.

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Rafael and Idit, "Wedding at First Sight" (Photo: screenshot, Keshet 12)

Raphael and Edith

What can be said about the ASMR video, the screensaver, the elevator music, the lettuce bed, the guard shifts known as "Rafael and Idit?".

God, what boredom.

The connection between them is not really a thing;

Is a background of a thing, only nothing happens against this background.

And when nothing happens, they try to force scenarios.

This is the purpose of Idit's "what is different in me" test, which brought up the shocking discovery that she renewed the nail polish.

The only passion that burns between them is for the army, and yet they agree that today, it is more important for them to start a family.

Sorry, I do not believe it anymore;

It is not possible to have conversations only about general values.

They are not human beings, they are Yair Lapid's campaign figures, and you will not convince me otherwise until the two of them discover more specific information about themselves than a fondness for coffee.

"He's a stunning guy, a man of yesteryear, so worried," Edith concludes after Rafael bought her salted caramel chocolate.

She declares a good match, but Yael has to extract from this boredom a minimal plot.

"What are you missing?", She searches forcefully.

"Fire," "roughness," says Edith, a woman who likens a relationship to a building.

"So you do not know him well enough… he has sides…", Yael smiles mischievously, as if she were Raphael's good friend who secretly conspires against him and knows what is really good for him.

To his credit, Edith says she enjoys the lack of pressure on the "physical thing."

That there is no pressure - it's good, but there should also be a desire, and on the other hand, it does not seem that sex is necessarily included in the construction plan of this relationship.

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Laughter is growing.

Katya, "Wedding at First Sight" (Photo: Screenshot, Keshet 12)

Katya and Lior

Katya's first shift evening, an empty house for Lior and a great opportunity to ice cream with some friends in an evening of awkward silence and cookies.

This strange evening is joined by an artistic activity of fixing a mezuzah on the door, a religious snatch of the house under Katya's nose, who in any case will not notice after a liter of daily wine and eighty hours of shift.

Amid the hospital frenzy she is forced to pull out her phone for materials for the program.

According to her, people around her are "not one hundred percent" and the reference is not to Lior, but to all the patients who at the moment have deprived themselves of their lives on the photo altar to "Hatonmi."

Lior, who remained at home, was first exposed to a difficulty in life with a doctor.

"A test for a relationship," he says, but he doesn't really mean it.

He has known since he first followed her that he wants her forever, and all in all he is worried about raising their joint children, who have already started creating them by pumping out Katya's eggs in her sleep.

When Katya returns home, Lior is gone but his cubes are waiting for her, another reason for her to break out in a random laugh.

By the way, is it just me, or is this frequency of laughter growing?

What's going on there?

Is this a cry for help?

There are a lot of weird things in this couple, but I believe it's good for her.

One day they did not meet because Katya had a job and Lior made friends, and here they are already attacking each other with longing, dancing slow in the living room, Lior of course has already planned their next wedding ahead and it is not impossible that he also closed catering.

"A very beautiful story, a detail, I hope it will not bore people," Lior concludes his love for Yael.

Listen, you can not have everything.

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