Maya Buskila in a revealing interview: "I've always smoked fire. I live my life and do what's best for me"
Strengthens her relationship with a younger man, is not moved by the criticism, thinks about another child, plans to conquer the stages again, misses Zvika Peak and is not ready to end up like Madonna.
Just before the age of 45, Maya Buskila in a personal interview
Miki Levin, Maariv
16/09/2022
Friday, September 16, 2022, 08:11 Updated: 08:27
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The Hanukkah miracle of Maya Buskila (Avi Cohen)
Maya Buskila went online last week with a public declaration of love for her partner of the past four months, who may be peaceable, a medical masseuse by profession, 17 years younger than her.
"You are the greatest love I've ever had in my life, you are the proof that a huge honest and true love can come regardless of age differences. I love you my life," wrote the singer, who just a year and a half ago stood on the steps of the rabbinate for the second time in her life, after a short marriage of a year that knew a lot Ups and downs, and especially headlines in the entertainment sections.
"I got to be alone since the divorce, and I think being alone did me a lot of good, because I connected myself to the best possible place," she says, "It was my private journey into myself to understand what I really want."
And what do you really want?
"I want, first and foremost, to live well with myself and I have completely arrived at this place. I am happier and feel more energetic than ever, I want a friend for life and thank God I found it. Maybe he is my best friend, we have great love, I have a child who is my whole world, I have a family, I have a career, I'm fine, I don't lack anything. I want to continue singing and be happy, I just need a little more performances and everything is perfect."
Disappointed that you got divorced for the second time in your life?
"I am not disappointed by anything in life. Life has to happen, you can only be grateful for the good and the bad to learn lessons. Every person who came into my life gave me a gift, whether it was good or not, it doesn't matter. The main thing is to develop, grow and understand what I want and consumption. Each person is a station in the great train of your life. For example Matan, Leni's father, from my first marriage, was there to make me a mother and thanks to that make me a better person. And the rest were to show me what I need and want today. To each person has a role in our lives,
Maya Buskila (Photo: Rafi Deloya)
How is the partnership with Shaoli different from previous relationships?
"When Olly came, I was already at peace with myself, in a good place. We met through good friends, and it just happened like magic. I already thought I couldn't fall in love. It's a great love, you have to get to know Olly to understand that he's a unicorn, he's something special ".
So much so that a third wedding is not a gross thought for you?
"It's not a rude thought, it's a far-fetched thought, but if everything goes great with maybe like now, then yes, why not. I'm not against marriage, it's not that I've lost faith in the institution of marriage, it's a matter of the man standing in front of you and if he's your best friend , so everything is possible."
You are 45 years old, is there anything to talk about another child?
"Me and Shaul want another child, we talk about it and I believe it will come. But it's important for me to point out that when you sell and make big statements, people take it as a foregone conclusion, but life is dynamic and changing, we don't know what will happen tomorrow."
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Another boy with maybe, it sounds like the real deal.
"There are many things I want to say about me and Shaul and our lovely relationship, but I prefer not to."
Why, do you believe in the evil eye?
"I believe in bad energies, not the evil eye."
And what do you say to all the naysayers who criticize the relationship in light of the age gap between you?
"Specifically with Shaul, there is no age gap, it is not noticeable at all, Shaul says that I am the girl between the two of us, and he is absolutely right. And what do you say about people who divorce and are the same age, or how many relationships end when the man is a decade or more older than the woman? There are no rules in this, life It just happens. If it were the other way around, and the age gap was in the man's favor, we wouldn't be talking about it at all, why is a man allowed to be older and a woman not? And why can't a man between 27 and 27 be mature enough to be with a woman who is 40 plus?".
Does it bother you that your relationship or personal life is being criticized?
"No, it comes in from the left and comes out from the right, there is a lot of criticism about me, I have always drawn fire, I am already a veteran critic, I don't know anything else. I live my life and do what is best for me, I don't live according to patterns and according to people's expectations. If I want to say something I say, I'm in a good place and I wish everyone to be in a good place in their lives. It's a shame that people take life much harder than it should be taken, you have to enjoy it. Everyone thinks you only live once, that's just not true. Just the opposite, Live every day, die only once."
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By the way, your father passed away recently.
"My father passed away a year and two months ago, we had a complex relationship throughout our lives, but towards the end I fed him and was with him every day and I am very happy about that. This terrible disease takes away from you every second of happiness in life, so I am glad that he is no longer suffering and is found In a better place. I wanted it to end for him so that he wouldn't suffer anymore."
Last month you also lost a close friend and dear colleague loved by all of us, Zvika Pick.
"Every time you mention Zvika I start to cry, I accepted it in a shocking way. We were like family, he always saw me as his little sister, he took care of me all the time, we had a deep and loving bond. I think he was in all the paths of my musical life, Throughout all the years of my career, not only in the first song he wrote for me that became a big hit thanks to which I broke out, 'Autumn Night', but he was also in the song he wrote for me a few years later, 'My Soul', which became an even bigger hit. And also in the musical 'Mary Lou' , which is based on his songs and in which I performed, and of course the joint performance we had just before he received the event and it was a great success. We were supposed to perform together on Independence Day in three performances in different cities throughout the country, and two days before I was told, 'Listen, it may be that Zvika won't come.' I didn't understand what It means he won't come, what happened, and then they told me he had a stroke. I took it very hard."
How has your relationship looked since the last event?
"We talked on the phone, we even talked about returning to a joint performance, he wanted to return to the stage. But we didn't meet. He less wanted to see me. Some people Zvika didn't want to see him in his weakness."
A very intimate and limited funeral was held for him at the request of the family.
"I think the limited funeral was magical, correct and precise. During the funeral I saw Tzvika up in the sky looking at us and saying (Boskila imitates Peak's voice - ML) 'Why aren't there bottles of mineral water here, why aren't the chairs arranged in the right order, why not Give gifts to the guests?'.
He was always a crazy perfectionist."
Perhaps a new song is expected dedicated to the man who accompanied you at the important points in your career?
"There will be many surprises related to Zvika Pick, be patient."
Wild horse.
Nero (photo: Walla! system, Sagi Ben Non)
And three weeks ago Niro Levy, who played alongside you in the movie "Days of Love", had a serious car accident with his motorcycle and was seriously injured.
"Niro is a wild horse, and I am not surprised that there is an improvement in his condition, I believe that he will get through it, because he is a strong and very optimistic person, I believe that the body can heal itself when you are positive and optimistic, and Nero is like that. We have not been in touch in recent years, but I saw It was a few months ago and there was a cute and lovely meeting with the children. It's just scary what happens on the roads, what a shocking and unnecessary accident. It just shows that you can be the best on the road and someone else makes one mistake and you're done."
Is that why at the age of 44 you still don't have a driver's license?
"I don't and for good reason, because I have a fear of buses and trucks, I tried a few driving lessons, and the truth is that I drive not bad at all. I did all the lessons and the theory, but in the end I decided it was too much for me.
How is the 20-year-old Maya who burst into our lives with fanfare with glittering titles and music awards different from Maya at the age of 44?
"Wow, different in almost everything. In my perception of life. I'm a mother, which mainly changed a lot of things for me. In the past it was art or death and an endless pursuit of the next hit, but because of my long career, today I'm in a place of creating for pleasure, and if I'm not enjoying it then I'm just not creative. There's no pressure for anything. I've become mostly a very whole person, I really like who I am today, I'm better and more patient and calm. I found my balance, among other things, thanks to the pills and the treatment I'm undergoing in NLP and coaching." .
You were among the first artists who spoke openly about anxieties and psychiatric pills.
"Yes, and I'm very happy about that, because hundreds of teenagers and adults have written to me over the years, 'How nice that we don't feel alone.' , and it's something that can be solved and be happy. I'm on pills and I found the right balance for me. It made me a more patient person, a better mother. It saved my life, it's important that they know there is a solution, and the imbalance of serotonin in the brain is like the flu of the 1990s - 2000, there should be awareness and they should know that there is treatment."
You also had the courage to be the first to come out against Galglatz when you criticized them as a station that ignores female creation, and in the test of the result you won in the end.
"Without a doubt it made a big change, but it helped other female singers, less so for me. As soon as you go against an empire, you know that you are the last to reap the rewards, it is a fact that there are many female singers who are currently being played in Galgaletz, I am not yet, but someone had to pick up the gauntlet , and I'm glad I did it even though I'm paying a price for it."
I meet Buskila in the early afternoon, in the luxury apartment where she lives in the State Square in Tel Aviv.
The apartment is decorated with good taste.
She just woke up from sleep, washed her face and didn't have time to put on makeup, but she looks radiant and more beautiful than ever, as if time stood still for her.
She drinks three cups of coffee and smokes cigarettes, and when I compliment her on her slim and flattering figure, she is not ashamed to almost undress in front of me and reveal the impressive results to me.
It is evident that she is in love and is in a very complete place in her life.
Maybe he calls during the interview, when he is not aware of my presence there, and showers her with words of love that do not embarrass an exciting romantic movie.
"My girl, I love you, my life," he tells her.
"Did I already tell you he's a unicorn?" says the singer with a sly smile.
Lenny, her sweet son, came over to ask her to quickly finish the interview and take him to a fun day at the cinema.
"Then give me a kiss," she says.
"I'm flying tomorrow to perform at a wedding in Mykonos and I didn't send him to school to spend more time with him before the flight, he's upset that I didn't send him to school, but for me it's a celebration to be with him. As much as possible just to be with him," she explains.
How hard is it to be a single mother?
"The simplest thing in the world, it's simpler than being in a relationship with someone, if you're a working and functioning mother, then everything is fine. Nine and a half years that I'm not alone, I'm with this amazing little creature that I'm in love with to the depths of my soul. I live for him and I'll give everything I'm all for him."
You are one of the greatest singers the country has ever known, how is it possible that you don't do a caesarean or judge a reality show?
"How hundreds of people write to me a week, 'You're wasted,' 'Where have you gone?', 'Why don't you sing?' Caesarea and bigger things too. I don't speed up the road but enjoy it. I'm at my own pace, not at the pace of what people expect to receive. I have time for family, child, partner, friends, to live this life. I don't worry about my career. Singer I was and will stay. I'm here and I'm not going anywhere."
You broke through two decades ago in the traditional and difficult way, while the world today belongs to the instant artists, who come out of reality TV, isn't that frustrating?
"Today's singers have a faster option to break through because of social networks, Spotify and reality TV. I started two decades ago and everything was different. This is life, there are a lot of new and good singers, a lot of styles that gave them an amazing stage, I followed a different path. Nothing frustrates me , there is a place for everyone in musical creation, there is no one right way. There is no one style."
And what do you say about the texts that the young stars sing today and become big hits?
"It's the spirit of the times. To tell you that Lenny listens to these songs? No, Lenny listens to Eric Einstein, jazz, soul. I'm not against, if people are happy and raise their hands up and it makes them feel good, who am I? Every person can choose what He wants to hear it. To tell you that I'll sing something like 'Pa no pa no pa pa'? Probably not, because it doesn't suit me."
A little bird whispered to me that there are new things in store in my career.
"Let's just say it's going to be a very interesting year, new songs, a new show soon, where we'll turn the songs into something electronic. Things are also happening on TV that I can't talk about, because they haven't been finalized yet, new projects that I can't reveal yet. And there's a new song which will be released very, very soon and I'm working on a sixth disc."
So can we announce a comeback?
"There is no comeback, dance. I don't believe in comebacks, my life is like an amusement park: sometimes I climb all the facilities and sometimes I don't. I emerge when I feel the need to be and when I don't - I don't. That's why I sometimes go back and disappear for periods And I take a break for myself to regulate everything. I know it's very difficult to accommodate a person who lives by his own codes, I really wish other people to do that in their careers as well."
There are quite a few artists who had meteoric success and over the years became irrelevant.
Doesn't that scare you?
"I walk with my truth, with my path, not afraid of anything, I will always do the things I love, there are many other things I love and know how to do. You don't always have to hold on to the horns of the altar. If better singers than me come along, then I will also know how to let go and let go when needed. I see Madonna today trying hard to stay, and it's sad, I'll never be like that, I'll know how to let go when needed and find another occupation. As long as I feel young and kicking and bring my same energies to the stage, I'll continue, but when it stops, I I will know how to let go and let it go."
Maya Buskila (Photo: Avi Cohen)
What would you say to all the young people who dream of becoming singers?
"First of all, I don't know such a concept as 'dreaming of being a singer'. If you're a singer, you won't want to be anything else, so it won't help anyway. Whoever is born a singer is a singer, whether it's worth it or not. It's an inseparable part of you."
You have said many times in the past that you aspire to an international career.
"I gave it up a long time ago, even though I already had international contracts, because I wanted Leni to live here with my family and I don't regret it. I see how Leni is flourishing and happy here in Israel, and there is no joy from me, as a mother you make compromises and concessions for the benefit of the child's future."
I will ask and you probably won't answer like most artists, but what do you think about what is happening in Israel at the political level, just before the next elections?
"I'm not politically involved and I don't bother with it, but I must point out that Yair Lapid surprises me in a really good way. Think about it, for me, Yair Lapid is a media person, an interviewer that I've interviewed several times during my career, and now he's the prime minister. And not just any prime minister, But one who makes excellent moves, everything that has happened recently also with the security situation and his latest brilliant military move, and his intervention in favor of the teachers in the negotiations, I'm really pleasantly surprised by him. If he continues like this, a lot of people will eat their hats. As if somehow everything works out for him And rest in his place in peace. I am happy for him, and the truth is mainly for us as well."
You have a lot of courage and also something very authentic, which is not afraid to talk even about the less beautiful things in life.
"Tell me, what do we have to hide? Did we sin something? Why should people hide or be what they are not, this is life for better or for worse, ups and downs zeros and downs, we will all reach the end sooner or later, it's all a matter of looking."
What title would you give this interview?
"The one and only Maya Buskila. I really am one and only, thank you."
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