“I have had more lovers in my life than a parish priest can bless, you may learn things.
»In a burst of laughter, Anne has fun and is surprised at the interest that one can bring to the sexuality of an 85 year old woman.
An age at which many have given up pleasure and sensuality.
As if they had embraced the idea that there would be an expiration date, an end to everything including the fulfillment of desires.
An idea to which Anne energetically refuses while recognizing the difficulties.
“It doesn't always work,” slips the former nurse, pursing her lips.
Sometimes it makes me angry, often it saddens me.
But hey, I always try again.
"
Her lover, whom she has been dating for 22 years, left Paris for almost a year.
They talk to each other constantly but they no longer see each other because of the Covid epidemic.
“There has been nothing sexual between us for years, just tenderness, she admits unvarnished.
But I like to fall asleep in his arms.
"Pleasure, Anne will seek it alone, for a long time.
“When I decide to have a little party, I take care of my clitoris and it's great,” she continues.
When I talk to friends my age or younger girls, some don't know they can have sex alone with their clit!
It is hopeless.
Most guys didn't know what to do with it.
For them, there was only penetration and fellatio!
But even I who know how to use it well, I can see that since the start of confinement, I have been less successful.
Maybe it's related to my fear of death, it affects my libido.
It's more and more difficult and it bothers me… ”
Its ritual is however immutable.
Getting out of the shower, after having done without the moisturizer, Anne lies down on her bed, nestled under the roofs of the small apartment she has occupied for more than 30 years.
"I masturbate a bit mechanically and if it doesn't come, I think back to old old stories and it helps me…"
"Sexuality was much freer"
Adventures, Anne has lived a thousand since arriving in Paris, fleeing her native Brittany and an ex-husband married too soon.
“I was born at 30 when I arrived here,” she explains.
My mom called me
ugly face
and thought I would never find anyone, I definitely had this life to make her lie.
My father loved me very much.
It is certainly thanks to him that I am still so alive.
"At 32, she takes the train of May 68 in motion and plunges with delight into the intellectual turmoil of the left:" I liked the debate of ideas.
There was activism and flirtation.
Sexuality was much freer.
It was an explosion, it felt like the lid had finally popped off.
I wanted to experience it.
At the time, I fucked like a guy, without wanting to commit.
It was full of beautiful stories without consequences.
"
For the thirty-something who lived in a community in the 18th arrondissement, these adventures were diverse, numerous, multiple, sometimes funny: “A lover took me by car to the Bois de Boulogne.
We parked in
the wankers alley
.
At one point a handful of guys got around the hood to masturbate looking at my knees and upper thighs.
We could see their alliances.
When they finished, they got yelled at because they got the windshield dirty (laughs).
It was not really exciting but very funny and surprising for a little provincial like me.
I experienced it as a discovery of the unusual Paris of the time.
»With one of her lovers, Anne discovers" ass boxes "or shares their bed with a passing friend.
"I would have liked to sleep with a couple of gay friends just to watch them but it never happened," slips the octogenarian with a little tone of regret.
But as Freud explains, fantasies are not made to be realized.
"
Strong friendships with her former lovers
Traveling companion of Antoinette Fouque and Gisèle Halimi, Anne fought for years for women's rights, participated in clandestine abortions by applying the Karman method and accompanied young girls to England to terminate their pregnancy.
She makes two, one of them regretfully.
“After I had an IUD all my life, my gynecologist didn't want to prescribe me the pill because I smoked too much!
"From her many adventures, Anne retains solid friendships with several of her lovers, their ex or their new partner:" I have always had the talent to transform love into friendship.
The written evidence is lying around in its drawers where there are letters received in response to its classified ads published in the Nouvel Observateur or Liberation.
“It was called
Les Chéris,”
hisses Anne.
It was the social networks of the time!
"
"I don't like old people"
Love in the 21st century doesn't really interest him anyway: “I would hate to be 20 today.
Dating sites, streaming porn, virtual relationships, very little for her.
“I don't understand anything in the new world where we don't talk to each other anymore.
"Anne, on the other hand, looks favorably on the democratization of sex toys -" it's great that the girls are taking charge "- and promises to go take a look in a shop:" I'm not buying anything on the Internet !
".
With her laughing eyes and gray hair, Anne continues to charm her world but refuses to bring a lover into her home again.
“I don't like old people and I won't be able to show my body to a man anymore,” she admits.
I love my life too much as it is.
With a lover, I'll be pissed off so I'm happy to be out of the arena.
And yet if you only knew how much I enjoyed making love… ”
Morning essentials newsletter
A tour of the news to start the day
Subscribe to the newsletterAll newsletters
Does this article appeal to you?
Does your sex life question you or do you simply want to share your personal experiences?
Write to me at
bmetayer@leparisien.fr
