There is plenty of space between desire and reality in many occupations. In the series "The Anonymous Job Protocol" people tell quite subjective, what characterizes their job - whether veterinarian, prosecutor or supervisor in the job center.
"A young woman in a short skirt and high heels is standing by the street, waiting for a man in a Mercedes to drive past her, patronizingly wind down the windowpane and stretch out a glow to her - a picture many people have of my work me very much, because it usually does not correspond to reality.
The poor woman and the bad man, the seducer - that was once. The majority of the clientele are still men. But more and more women and transsexuals or intersex people are using the services of sex workers like me. Society is changing, as is sex work.
My customers have only one thing in common: They want to live out their fetish. Men between the ages of 18 and 80 come to me from all walks of life. Sometimes couples or people with disabilities use my services. The people who want to book me, but must be capable of business.
In general, I do not come to them, but they to me, because the benefits and features of a Domina studio can not be packed in a suitcase. My studio is officially registered, I pay both taxes and my contributions to the nursing, pension and social insurance as all other self-employed people too.
Anal games and prostate massages
I fulfill my clients' sexual desires and preferences that their partners may reject. Some people are excited to just drop and be at the mercy of being maybe completely fixed. Some want to experience extensive anal games or prostate massages. The next one wants the hardened gait with a whip. But also games with different sex toys belong to it.
The customers contact me by mail or by mobile phone. So I can make a preselection. Men who are just 'What bubbles cost?' roar into the phone, I do not even assume. The address of my studio is also not public on the Internet.
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The anonymous job log: This is what everyday life really looks likeWhat happens in the sessions, my customers and I specify in a preliminary conversation. For example, they fill in a questionnaire stating whether they want to be addressed by their first name, a pet name or an insult, and what tools they feel like doing. You can also enter which clothes I should wear during the session: Lackstiefel, latex or costumes, such as a nurse outfit. But in the end, I decide for myself whether or not I fulfill these wishes for a customer.
Safe, sane, consensual - clean, safe, by mutual agreement. I take these three principles of BDSM very seriously in my work. That's why I need a lot of condoms and rubber gloves, also to keep the sex toys clean.
Long conversations with customers
I talk to a lot of customers for a long time. For example, some tell me why they even come to me. I still remember the man who visited me regularly - and always justifies himself. His wife had fibromyalgia. She had therefore allowed unbearable pain with every touch and her husband to visit me. I struggled to finally put him in a relaxed state and let himself fall physically and just think of himself.
Of course, married men are among my customers. Why someone visits me, but I do not have to care: I have to do with adults who have to take responsibility for their own actions.
I do not want to speak publicly about the prices of my sessions. They depend on the wishes of my clients and the time I spend on them. But I can live well from the job. And it enables me to pursue my own profession: I am an artist and I would like to have time for my art. Being a dominatrix allows me to pursue this activity.
I am a fetishist and before I started my own business five years ago, I also visited a lot of Sado Maso parties in private, worked in dome studios and was fully informed. That's a basic requirement for me. You already need a soft spot to be able to practice such a profession. You can not say, 'I pick up a whip and then I just earn a lot of money.' The knowledge of the practices as well as a good knowledge of human nature are important.
Clear announcement on border crossings
Nevertheless, it can also be dangerous in my job. When customers cross borders and insist on something I do not want or can not give them. So far I have had to make a clear statement to two customers after they became overbearing in the session. One did not come back after that, the other is still a regular. But both apologized and were very remorseful.
I am happy to work in an environment where sex workers support each other and respect each other in case something should happen. I never had to call the police.
The anonymous job log
Unfortunately, in my job there are also women who have become victims of violence, coercion or human trafficking. They need help urgently - which only works on the legalization of sex work. Because only then can women who are treated badly, also legally report, without having to fear big disadvantages. Sex work can not be prohibited by law.
Personally, I do not have that much to do with stigmatization: my family and my circle of friends take up my job well. I talk about my job as much as anyone else does. Sometimes I even accept customer talks while I am with friends. If I am then asked on the phone for anal massages, my friends are already irritated. But for me it's normal. It's a job like any other. "