He's an open-space bandit. A fearful and feared corporate torturer. We imagine him rather a handsome man, close shaven and impeccably combed, elegant, Colgate smile, like Patrick Bateman in the novel American Psycho by Breat Easton Ellis. We imagine it on the top floor of a tower in La Défense, in a large office or truddering along the thick carpet of the corridors and sending its hypocritical smiles to its office neighbors. A man therefore ... No, parity is respected: there are also narcissistic perverts.
Man or woman, the narcissistic pervert practices the "pokerface" to perfection: he can smile on command and, in a fraction of a second, find a cold face, without showing any emotion. Emotion is precisely what it doesn't have. However, his great talent is to use those of others ...
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He was once the eternal guest on the front page of magazines. A chestnut tree which was the star of the “Psychology in the office” files and the star of practical coaching cases: the narcissistic pervert, how to recognize it? How to avoid it? How to foil its unhealthy influence? How to take it in its own trap? How to stand up to him?
This media ubiquity of the narcissistic pervert has created an effect of psychosis and a lot of paranoia: if we talk so much about the narcissistic pervert, it is because there is everywhere in the open space. So much so that as soon as you find a colleague who is a little bit unfriendly, you qualify him as a narcissistic pervert ...
Let's go back to the definition. A narcissistic pervert or a person suffering from a narcissistic personality disorder is a person who has a self-deprecating image and who values himself by belittling others, according to the Passeport Santé website.
If one of your colleagues, endowed with an oversized ego, is convinced that he is the messiah of management, he is not a narcissistic pervert: he is a pretentious who has the melon. If a comrade multiplies the secret and is a follower of masses low on your back, he is not a narcissistic pervert: he is a gougnafier and a liar. Finally, if a colleague is a little too pushy, he may be a pervert, but not narcissistic: he is a heavyweight.
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