In the episode that aired last night (Saturday) in "Wedding at First Sight," we watched Maayan and Omri separate.
Maayan claimed it was because Omri did not want enough and did not do enough, but she did not actually see that she did not take steps, just as he did not.
According to her, the breakup came because they would not be a couple because they did not fit.
But is that the real reason?
One of the reasons for having a "wedding at first sight" is to filter out background noise by committing both parties to the process without being tempted to leave too quickly for the next in line.
The format requires the parties to give a real chance after knowing more in depth, and not to make decisions based on mere superficial acquaintance.
But this format creates a big problem, which is actually the short time available to the parties.
As a result, the process becomes too intense and sometimes difficult to digest (not just everyone claims to have had a crazy experience).
In addition, this short sheet of time makes it difficult for participants to undergo an internal perceptual change from the initial state in which they are single, a state in which most of them have been for years, to becoming part of a couple.
All the more so when they do not have an initial spark, and when the commitment comes from the very participation in the program and not from an inner desire.
Omri felt he was trying, Photo: Keshet 12
This is the main reason for the failure of the connection between Omri and Maayan.
Connected two people who had not been in a serious and meaningful relationship a long time before, so that they were deeply immersed in their bachelorhood and habits.
It may be that there is a match between them, but they did not know how to communicate, so there was always friction between them that they also did not know how to solve.
It's not that Omri did not invest and was not "all in" in the process, he was completely for him, only it was not enough for Maayan.
Let's not forget that he studied abroad for a few years and then moved to another country to work there for a few more years, so he used to be alone.
Could not hold.
Maayan and Omri, Photo: Alon Gruber
Also at the clinic he said he used to go out with women who are not serious.
This is why he did not know at all how to behave when in a serious relationship.
From this one can understand his instability: initiating that need, but not completing the task to the end.
For comparison: The change of Nitzan and Mano
It is true that Mano is also a sworn bachelor, but Nitzan, perhaps because she is a social worker, is very attentive to his needs, his feelings, and what he tells her.
She does not make a film out of everything, and even when they do not agree, she knows how to approach the subject gently and wait.
Apparently, in the past he had told her unequivocally that there would be no situation where we would not smoke indoors, and two episodes ago he mentioned to his friend that they only smoke on the balcony.
Nitzan realized that this is a process that takes time.
Mano, who has the high ability to diagnose, also knows how to do the same to Nitzan.
Nitzan realized it was taking time.
Nitzan and Mano, Photo: Keshet 12
Maayan had a very limited ability to be patient with Omri and understand that this is a process that requires time.
Apparently it stems from what she herself said at the beginning of the show, that she does not know what a relationship is, that she did not have an example at home because her father left when she was little, and her mother never had a relationship she could learn from.
A lot of people do not know.
If we think about it, no one teaches us how to form a relationship.
The expectation is that we will be able to do it alone, but a relationship needs to be learned just as one learns a language, as one learns a profession or how to behave.
Sometimes it's enough for us to see how others do it and imitate them, and sometimes we need a little more than that.
Omri and Maayan need to learn how to create a relationship and how to conduct it, at least in the beginning.
According to the episode that aired yesterday, chances are the show has taught them a bit of what they need to learn for the sake of their next relationship.
The author is the author of the practical guide to creating a relationship: "From all my educational educators" - all the secrets that have never been told to you to create a relationship. To follow, click here