The Spanish generation Z is the one in Europe that most advocates polyamory and open relationships, with 60%, according to a study published by the dating application focused on infidelity founded in 2001 Ashley Madison in collaboration with the data company YouGov .
The general director of Europe of the
app
, Christoph Kraemer, decided to carry out the study
Decoding Generation Z: Global report on non-monogamy, sex and privacy
after the arrival of more than 18,000 Spaniards belonging to the age group between 18 and 29 years to Ashley Madison.
“We were surprised, and that's why we decided to address it,” Kraemer explains.
The survey data contrasts with the latest figures from the Center for Sociological Research (CIS) from last April.
The survey determined that 4 out of 10 Spaniards are in favor of opening their relationships.
“The
Zetas
, despite all the criticism they receive, teach the older people to live in their own way, without so many prejudices,” emphasizes sexologist Jesús Alonso.
The most lost generation, the most prepared, the crystal generation.
The Spanish
Zetas
have received many qualifiers in recent years.
And they are, for Alonso, the young people who champion social change in the way they relate to others, from the most sexual part to the most emotional part.
“They are the ones who are changing the vision of society because they have had more access to information, and that has made them see life in a more open way,” he says.
The criticism of
boomers
(those born in the
baby boom
) and the treatment given to them in movies and series is what bothers generation Z the most. “The situations it shows or the type of relationships it presents are usually done in a satirical way,” says Alonso.
Those of generation Z experience polyamory as something natural.
“There is nothing wrong with loving more than one person.
Someone may not satisfy you sexually, but they will satisfy you emotionally,” explains Lucía Inestrillas, who has spent the last six years in an open relationship.
She started at 20, after two monogamous experiences.
Until then she had only been with men: “Opening up my relationship helped me know that I was bisexual.”
For her part, María Herreros, 25, opened up to simultaneous couples much earlier.
In her first steps into the erotic-sentimental world she realized that she wanted more than one person at a time.
She now has a relationship with a man and, although at this moment it is just the two of them, the decision to open herself up to third parties again is still up in the air.
“We are called sluts, but what we do is live our relationship the way we want,” Herreros concludes.
Polyamory does not have defined rules.
Each group sets its limits.
The most common thing is usually not to have any type of relationship with an acquaintance, avoid sexual encounters with others in the home that is shared and maintain complete confidence to tell each other what has happened with other couples.
But Alonso points out that “it depends on the configuration of each group.
And what is defined in the first year of the relationship is not the same as what is defined in the fifth year.”
What experts do agree on is that the most common thing in polyamorous relationships are the so-called triads, where one person maintains a relationship with two others at the same time.
From there arise
triejas
, couples of three people who benefit from what others give them in different aspects: one in the sexual area, another in the emotional area...