On the 7th of last month, Anderson Road Libra accident resulted in 3 deaths and 6 injuries. Among them, 41-year-old electrician Xu Wenming was crushed to death on the spot, leaving behind his wife and two daughters who were suffering from cancer.
At that time, Taiton Xu became the protagonist of the tragedy. When she was diagnosed with cancer at the end of her life, her husband died suddenly. She had to run around to handle the funeral and take care of her daughter with a broken body.
After more than a month, Mrs. Xu accepted an exclusive interview with "Hong Kong 01" and admitted that she had thought about giving up in the most difficult days: "Choose death was easier for me at the time... It will be more troublesome and more troublesome to live. Tired." But thinking of her daughter and her family, Mrs. Xu chose to hold on, and the help of the vast number of Hong Kong people gave her the strength to get out of the trough in her life, no longer confused and worried.
Mrs Xu now hopes that after her recovery, she can contribute to the beauty of Hong Kong and repay the society.
As for her husband's death, it was still a pain in the heart of Mrs. Xu, but she indicated that she would accept the pain as it naturally came: "It is pain and memory, and pain is sometimes a proof of existence. I think I will still share with him (Mr. ) together."
Xu Tai said frankly that she has not yet come out of the grief of losing her husband, but she chose to accept the pain naturally.
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In the interview, Mrs. Xu admitted that she has yet to come out of the grief of her husband's loss, and she has no plans to come out. Instead, she chooses to accept the pain naturally, "Just let it be with me, I feel sad at some point. Cry, it is pain and memory.”
Xu Tai continued: "Life is inherently painful and happy, and pain is sometimes a proof of existence. I want to continue to move forward with him (sir)."
Unforgettable picture of husband passing away lying on the construction site
Mrs. Xu said that no matter how memorable the experience with her husband was, it was "not as impressive as seeing him lying on the construction site when he passed away".
During this time, memories of the past and images of her husband's death were often intertwined in Mrs. Xu's mind. She said, "It is necessary to distinguish in the consciousness which one is more real."
Mrs. Xu said that no matter how memorable the experience with her husband was, it was not as impressive as seeing him passing away lying on the construction site.
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Mrs. Xu admitted to reporters that the first three days after the accident were the most difficult days. "The impact of the accident is far greater than sadness and grief."
She described being very dazed at the time, busy with different things every day, and even "didn't have a good time to sit down and grieve".
She pointed out that she had anxiety and other conditions at the time, and she could only sleep for 2 to 4 hours a day, which led to physical problems, including "snakes."
Until now, Mrs. Xu and her family have not fully digested the incident.
Suffering from cancer, lost a loved one and thought about giving up
The family has undergone great changes, and some people may be at a loss, especially when Mrs. Xu is suffering from cancer and lost her love. ...It will be more troublesome and tiring to live." But as a middle-aged person with seniors and juniors, Mrs. Xu pointed out that it is not a matter of courage to live, but that she has no right to choose to relax, because "everyone knows this Too irresponsible."
When she was at a low point in her life, Mrs. Xu admitted that she had thought about giving up.
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Hong Kong people's support helped her get out of the trough of life
Perhaps it was because of her strong nature or her responsibility. In the end, Xu Tai did not escape, but chose to take it on. She said, "The hardest days are over, and the worst has happened." Life still has to go on, only Actively do the things right in front of you.
In the most difficult days, Hong Kong people became Mrs. Xu's savior. She was grateful to Hong Kong people for their "quick and enthusiastic" support after the accident, so that she was no longer confused and worried, and had the strength to get out of the trough in her life. There is a smooth road ahead, rather than having to dig a tunnel yourself.”
Mrs. Hui said that in the past month, she has been cared for by the Industrial Injury Rights Association, the Social Welfare Department, the Federation of Trade Unions, schools and other organizations, and she has also received cards from the public, which made her realize again that "Hong Kong is a place with so much love and kindness. The place".
She described Hong Kong as very good, and hoped that Hong Kong would become better in the future, and looked forward to "having the opportunity and everyone to contribute to its (Hong Kong) good."
Mother and Daughter Work Together to "Fill Dad's Empty Place"
After her husband passed away, Mrs. Xu wanted to take care of her two daughters as a father. She pointed out that the two daughters were in a good mood, and the atmosphere at home was gradually returning to what it was before.
However, without her husband's supervision, her daughter's homework would inevitably become lazy, which made her a little worried.
She expressed to her daughter that although her father had passed away, she hoped that mother and daughter would work together to "fill up the vacant position left by father".
Xu Tai continued to point out that during these days, her daughter felt that the attitude of the people around her had changed, and she gave them more care. She also comforted her daughter by saying, "This may be Dad's love. He helps you supplement you through the love of others. The love that is missing in my heart."
After her husband passed away, Mrs. Xu had to take care of her two daughters as a father.
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As for anti-cancer, Xu Taizheng is undergoing chemotherapy, and the first course of treatment required 6 injections, and now he has received 2 injections.
She said that after the doctor's palpation examination, the finger mass had shrunk a little, but the staged conclusion could not be reached until the fourth needle.
Mrs. Xu is now receiving treatment with an optimistic attitude: "I don't care about hair loss, but I feel that it is much easier and more convenient without hair." She expressed that she has a certain degree of confidence in her body, and secondly, she believes in the advanced treatment methods in Hong Kong.
Cancer recovery can give back to society 12
Xu Taifang hopes that after her cancer is cured, she can take her daughter to go hiking and camping with her family. In the future, she also wants to study and improve her education to find a job. "Let's see if there is anything I can do that can give back to the society." Ruo Ruo. What if the condition worsens?
Mrs. Xu said frankly, "Although it's hard to predict, but it won't kill you right away." She also pointed out that the two daughters' aunts will take care of them. If they can still take care of themselves at the end of their lives, they will teach their daughters how to cook. Life is positive and happy, "it is very rare to be able to achieve this goal".
Mai Meijuan, Wu Qiubei and Guo Weiqiang visit Ahui, the widow of Xu Wenming, who died in the accidental death of Anderson.
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After experiencing all kinds of ups and downs, Mrs. Xu "suddenly seems to understand something" about life. For example, growing up is actually a kind of self-choice. "It turns out that when encountering difficulties, besides admitting defeat, in addition to being tough, there is another option, which is to see broadly. One point, think a little more transparently, let yourself face the problem with an open-mindedness, and accept all that cannot be changed.”
When asked if she was satisfied with the progress of the work-related injury investigation, Mrs. Xu said, "No party has given us a clear explanation of the cause and progress of the accident." She pointed out that everything is not yet clear at this stage. It's still acceptable to be slower, if it's better for things.
Mrs. Xu said that the compensation for work injury now needs to wait for the process of the Labour Department, because the accident has a greater impact and may take some time.
In addition to providing charitable funds, Jingjin Construction has once again brought the hearts and condolences of the company's colleagues.
Xu Tai pointed out that the accident was a blow to his family and a difficulty for the company, so he did not want to ask the company to pay more compensation.
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