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When a famous therapist was interviewed on a popular podcast about sex, sex drive, and what makes it go away, she said something that made a lot of people think, and even sparked a mini storm. When columnist Jana Hawking came across this information, she was quite shocked: "Stephen Bartlett spoke with the famous therapist Marisa Parr, who gave advice that was so surprising that I felt it was my duty to pass it on to those of us who had already started families and closed on their lives."
Hawking began writing the column when she was a young single woman, and she says she never thought she would find herself offering advice at age 35 to older people and families while still single and a columnist, but life happens while we make plans, and it turns out that it works that way for Americans, too.
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"I'll start with a word of warning," she writes, "Parents, prepare yourself because what I'm going to tell you is something that once you hear it, you can't help but hear it. He got stuck in his head. You may find that what Marisa Farr recommends not doing in any way if you don't want to lose your desire for the other person – you actually do every day, and I apologize in advance."
"Sexual desire in a long relationship is something that is very easy to lose and difficult to recover, and if it were possible to understand in advance what habits might hurt it down the road, I'm sure you'd want to know. Beforehand. So here it comes: Marisa Farr states, quite firmly, that parents who call each other 'mom' or 'dad' next to their children, and sometimes alone, are on a fast track to separating bedrooms. Farr explains that once your partner is regularly referred to as 'mom' or 'dad' instead of his name, in our subconscious it goes against the basic desire to sleep with him or her, because 'who wants to have sex with their parents?'
Now, you may think you're not doing it, but Marissa Farr suggests paying attention to how you talk to or about your partner – in front of your children. If you say things like, "Johnny, tell Dad about what happened today at school" or "Did you tell Alma, what award did you win?"
It seems very harmless, and Marissa explains that what people don't know is that when they're in a long relationship with someone they've had children with, everyone has to assimilate into the role of parent once they have children, and the role takes over a lot of the private places in life, the ones that are not related to the children, and it also invades the bedroom:
"When you give each other parental titles, you put each other in parental thought." She explains, adding that this advice applies not only to parents but also to people who keep pets together.
You know who you are – yes yes, the ones who call each other 'mommy' or 'daddy' when they talk about their
domestic animals For example, you might say, "Chumi, your dad will take you outside to pee." In short - stop it. Stop it now.
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