Did you think that if you put a polished picture of yourself you would get more inquiries?
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About two years ago a close friend told me that in one of his searches for a partner in apps, he came across a picture of a pretty handsome woman who was photographed with a swimsuit.
He really liked the woman, and he decided to turn to her.
They talked on the phone and set up a date.
When he got to the cafe, he could not locate her so he called her.
"I arrived, I'm here. When are you coming?"
"I'm already here," the woman replied.
"Where?", The friend exclaimed.
"I do not see you...".
The woman led him to the corner table, and when the friend came to her he saw in front of him a woman who did not look at all like the woman in the picture.
"Sorry I'm asking," the friend asked her with slight discomfort, "but is that you in the picture in the app?", "No," the woman replied shamelessly.
"So why did you put a picture that is not you?", The friend insisted.
"Because if I had put a picture of me, you would not want to meet me," she stated.
The friend looked at her in amazement, but was not confused and replied, "I have news for you, even now I do not want to meet you," and left.
For the first tip: this way you will know if the man is in your interest
For the second tip: a man who promises thousands of promises? Wait for deeds
Most people who lie about this or that "small matter" in their profile on dating sites, claim in their defense that once they meet their date, they will reveal the truth to him.
Some do (age), and others cannot hide it (weight, height).
They claim that this is a small and unserious lie, and most importantly, that as soon as their date arrives and gets to know their charming inner self, he will fall in love with them and forget about that little lie.
I call this phenomenon: "Abel the inner beauty"
When a woman presents a picture of herself not, or a picture of herself that does not reflect reality, by overusing Photoshop or image enhancement apps, the man feels cheated, and of course upside down.
Indeed, the most common claim among men in the transition between apps and the real world is, "she did not look like in the picture."
Not to be forgotten, the main purpose of any virtual meeting is to get on a date.
The thing is, if the man who came feels cheated, your chances of building a relationship with him have dropped miraculously.
When you meet a man for the first time, he does not know you yet, and you may really be a very honest and trustworthy woman, but if the first thing he meets is a lie, however small (in your eyes), chances are he is already forming a negative opinion of you.
It is impossible to recognize your inner beauty if it is founded on a lie.
It is impossible to build a bond of trust and security if the first thing the other party encounters is a lie, and that it is this lie that brought him to the meeting.
When a man meets on a date a woman who looks ten years older than the picture he saw, he is disappointed.
And this disappointment in particular will be difficult for him to overcome.
Why?
Because the male brain is affected first and foremost by the visual, therefore, you need to invest in your photos on dating sites and social networks.
Put a real picture of you, one that will allow you to be identified on the street if you happen to be met.
Do not be ashamed of who you are and what you are.
And he who does not like what he sees - so no, hello to him and all the best to him.
True, if you present the truth, you will receive fewer inquiries, but quality is important here, not quantity.
Weren't we always told we only need to find one?
It is better to be approached by 3 men who like what they see in your profile and will be happy to meet you, than 20 who will be disappointed with the date with you.
And what about the men?
This tip is very relevant on the male side as well.
It turns out that the main complaints of women in this regard are regarding height and age.
Do not try to force those who are not interested in the first place.
While it is true that sometimes it may succeed, but in most cases it is not.
And last but not least, the dating sites do not give you results, there are quite a few more options to meet men (or women) and I have listed them all in the book I wrote.
It is true that websites are the leading way, and it is true that almost everyone is in the virtual world, but there are many more ways to get to know each other.
In the next tip we will talk about the pyramid of fantasies.
The author is the author of the book "From all my educational educators" - all the secrets that were never told to you to create a relationship
