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You might be surprised to hear, but most people are not very smart.
Some simply only know how to "sound smart".
For some of us, assertive confidence comes naturally, but others will find it difficult to demonstrate it, so an online coach for personal empowerment reveals three (quite simple) tricks that will help you sound smart, radiate confidence and charm everyone who talks to you.
Online influencer Hannah Chan (@realhannahchan on TikTok) who describes herself as an online business mentor, occasionally posts videos on TikTok that help empower women in particular.
In her latest video, she admits that she wasn't born with charisma and was a little "awkward" when she was younger.
However, she now follows a certain set of rules to get proper treatment from people and has shared with her viewers the rules that will help them make the best first impression as well.
"You are judged every time you contact someone, not by what you say, but by how you say it," she explains in the video.
Her first tip is to use the "chameleon technique," something the most charismatic people out there usually do, she says.
This technique holds that you should change your approach based on who you are talking to.
She explained: "When you're talking to people who have super high energy, a lot of the time they feel like the other person isn't as invested in the conversation if you don't give them that energy back. If you want to make that person feel seen and build some rapport with them, you You'll have to increase your energy by 20 percent to somewhat match his level."
When asked in the comments: "As an introvert, it's so exhausting to match this hype energy! Do you have any advice?", she replied: "I'm an introvert so I understand you! It doesn't mean being someone you're not. Just increasing your energy in 10-20 percent".
Studies have found that people use this technique unintentionally in many cases, when they tend to "mimic" the body language and gestures of their friends, which is also known as "mirroring".
Psychology consultant and life coach, Bayo Priandito warned that it's important for people to make sure they don't lose their "authentic selves" and that they are "empathetic and adaptive - and not just imitating".
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The second rule that Hana follows is the pitch of the voice.
She emphasizes that the way you speak "says a lot about you".
She explained that you will be seen as an insecure person if you speak in a voice that rises at the end of a sentence.
The tone or pitch of your voice will say a lot about you - and if your sentences tend to end on a higher pitch, it can sound like a question, like you're not sure what you just said.
Hannah added: "Subconsciously you're signaling and looking for validation - like you're trying to ask a question to get approval from the other person. When you do the opposite and end your sentences with a low pitch and not a high pitch as if you're asking a question, it doesn't matter if you're talking to the CEO of a company and you The unpaid intern - it signals that you have certainty in your ideas and you stand behind them."
Finally, the last rule that Hannah lives by is avoiding devaluing yourself. That is, she claims that you should avoid expressions like "Oh, only if you want" or "I don't Good as you are." Hannah said: "You might think you're just humble or nice - but it actually projects that you're insecure, like you're not comfortable with the fact that you can be good at something.
If you think of all the reasons why you respect someone, it's not actually because they're super nice or too humble.
It's probably because he has this energy of certainty, that he respects himself enough to share his opinions, even if he knows other people will disagree with him."
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, so what did we have here? Adapting ourselves to the energy of the other (raising or lowering ours by 10-20 percent is definitely enough), ending a sentence with determination and confidence rather than a question mark or the need to get approval from others and speak your mind with confidence Without devaluing you, you can definitely work on it.
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