We have a tendency to sometimes think that with the right couple counseling all our problems will be solved.
Only if we reach the couple's counseling on time will we know how to communicate well, understand each other more clearly and walk hand in hand towards the horizon.
But the truth is that even the best couple counselor in the world will not be able to sprinkle his magic powder on us and solve all our problems, because there are couples whose match is minimal or non-existent - just like with Liad and Limor.
Liad and Limor had several meetings with Yael.
Most of the time Yael managed to help them overcome the existing difficulty and cross the hurdle.
They were able to communicate and create a better atmosphere after each meeting at the clinic, but soon a new problem arrived that they did not always know how to solve (sometimes already in the parking lot, at the exit of the clinic).
Also in the episode of "Wedding at First Sight" that aired yesterday (Saturday), they fought again.
Liad suggested that Limor meet with Yael to get help from her in solving the new problem that arose, but Limor said that it was time for them to solve the problems themselves, and not turn to Yael every time.
Limor reached a breaking point earlier than Liad, and she made the right move for both of them and chose to break up.
Even if the target did not want to hear that it was the right thing for him, when in a relationship where one party is no longer interested in that relationship, the right thing for both parties is to cut.
Decided to cut.
Liad and Limor, Photo: Keshet 12
Although Limor is the one who decides to cut the knot, and even though she understands that it is the right thing to do, she cries and is very sad about the end of the knot, and so is the goal.
They are not sad and crying over the end of their relationship, but about the loss of potential and returning to the starting point.
As Liad said: "I return home to the starting point, to silence, alone", and this is one of the hard feelings in parting. Just a month and a half ago they got married at a big and happy party and started a process that was supposed to succeed and allow them to find the perfect match for them.
This is exactly why Liad understands Limor's heart when they look at their wedding album and she cries.
He tells her, "You'll still have a real wedding album," because that's the heart of the matter.
She cries about the love and life that was missed for her, she sees the unrealized potential.
When we end a relationship that lasts a relatively short time, we usually do not cry over the person who comes out of our lives, we are sad about the loss of potential that we have formed and built for ourselves in our head and dream, about what we thought it would be if it were successful.
As soon as the person with whom we thought the potential was about to come out comes out of our lives, he takes away from us this chance for happiness, and for that we are sad.
Indeed, we can hope that they will take some of the insights they gained as a result of the look the program reflected on them, apply in reality the day after, and perhaps succeed in finding a relationship with someone else that will suit them much better.
The author is the author of the practical guide to creating relationships: "From all my educational educators," and helps women create relationships. For follow-up: on Facebook and Instagram
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