send the wrong messages
Consciously or not, we refuse to play the game of physical and relational seduction.
So the sensual dimension of the body is absent, camouflaged and communication is neutral.
"Either out of contempt for appearances and a desire to seduce in radical authenticity (one takes me as I am), or because an old guilt linked to the sexual body prevents one from showing oneself as a desiring and desirable subject", analyzes the psychoanalyst Anne-Marie Benoît.
In both cases, the message sent is: I have no sexual desire, neither for you nor for anyone.
And with rare exceptions, the message is well received.
The advice:
allow yourself to live as a sexual, attractive person, highlight your strengths, and do not hesitate to use a well-known technique from behavioral and cognitive psychology: "acting as if".
You force yourself to act like a confident, attractive person, you get positive feedback and you build your self-confidence.
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