Mistakes in upbringing: Don't compare children - parents damage development

Created: 08/31/2022, 7:30 p.m

By: Natalie Hull Drawbar

While children just want to have fun on the playground, some parents tend to compare their offspring to that of other parents.

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Most parents want children to be able to develop and unfold freely.

Comparing is not good - why exactly?

If you listen to the mothers' conversations on the playground, it is often the same topics about the offspring that are exchanged.

And then, subliminally or directly, advice is given to each other and comparisons are made between the children: “How long has yours been able to sit up?” – “When did she start crawling?” – “He can already count to ten?

Our son can't do that yet!" - "How lucky you are that he can dress himself so independently, that doesn't work at all with our child!" - "Your little one is so friendly and polite, our son rests so quickly and doesn't listen to us at all.” These and other conversations will sound familiar to most parents.

24vita.de reveals why it is so important not to compare children with each other.

Most people actually know that making comparisons between children is of little use to either the parents themselves or the children – apart from frustration in most cases.

The well-known family and educational advisor Jan-Uwe Rogge explains what the background of comparing parents and children is and why it is important not to do it.

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